I am trying to figure if it would be morally right for me to pursue my friend whom I believe to be bisexual. (?)
He considers himself to be Christian, though I think alternate sexualities are not Christian-like. But on the other hand, is it alright to reconcile that if he's dating me then his bi-sexualityshouldn't matter because he'd be in a monogamous relationship with me?
Please NO SLURS about homo/bi-sexuals.
2007-01-30 16:15:08 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
No. If you know a person who is in open sin and disobedience to God's Word, it is not possible to have a successful long term relationship with that person, unless that person first repents of that sin and become a child of God. If he acknowledges that having bisexual relations is sin, then you are one step in the right direction; all he needs to do, then, is ask God for forgiveness, and move away from committing those sins.
Also, committment to a loving and open relationship according to God's word and will should be a priority in both of your lives, rather than lust and affection, which both fade away. A true and lasting relationship can only be found when both partners love and know God, and seek to obey Him.
2007-01-30 16:23:09 · answer #1 · answered by Crono 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think that there are some real big problems with people who are having any kind of casual sex. A big one that you should be concerned with is that they are damaging thier ability to bond and mate with thier spouse in a future marriage.
Any time that they are having sexual activity is not only sinning but damaging thier self esteem and thier ability to be faithful to one person for life. I would never get involved with a person involved in such deception. If they claim they are Christian but are living like that they are playing games with God and God does not play.
There is the possiblitly that he could repent and go straight and try to start living a chaste life. In that case I would stay away until he has had time to sort all that out(quite a while-like 6 months of being chaste or even a year) with a pastor or some good Christian friends. You should back way off until this guy is out of this and not pretending or going straight for your sake. He needs to have true repentance from this. Where he stops it because it displeases God and is harmful to him and his relationship with Jesus.
2007-01-30 16:29:30 · answer #2 · answered by Makemeaspark 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Bisexual men can certainly be monogamous, and good husbands and boyfriends. But if you have a problem with his bisexuality and think he's not a good Christian because of it, it's best for you both if you move on. I think it's best for people in a relationship to respect each other.
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2007-01-30 16:23:11 · answer #3 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I personally would not like to be involved with someone who believed the my natural sexuality was somehow evil, unnatural, or immoral. I don't really see how this can work out, unless you plan on keeping your true views secret. But that's not a good idea either, it would come out or become apparent some way eventually.
2007-01-30 16:32:02 · answer #4 · answered by M L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The problem is not his sexual orientation. The problem is that bisexuals sometimes think that they can have one of each. Just make sure that you have sorted out the exclusivity of your relationship beforehand. Otherwise read up on polyamory. In the poly communities you will get a lot of information there about alternatives to monogamy.
2007-01-30 16:37:33 · answer #5 · answered by Rabble Rouser 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If he understands that what he was doing was wrong and repents then there is no reason not to. If he is only with you, then he is no longer wrong. On a side note, I would make sure that he has been tested, and be certain that he doesnt go back to the lifestyle. If you have any doubts I would stay away because of the risk of aids.
For all of you that are offended, it is FACT that aids is much higher in the gay community
2007-01-30 16:20:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
You have to decide if you are okay with his bisexuality. If it really bothers you than you should not pursue a relationship with him. He won't change, and asking him to do so is not ethical. He is who he is. Accept him wholey as such or don't.
2007-01-31 05:41:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok, no slurs about them, but fact has it that those relationships cause aids (anal) and 2 monogamy is the Christian way. To be honest, no sex outside of marriage is the BIBLICAL LAW<< so , it is up to you ??
It has now been proven that any of us that have had sexual relations could have aids for they claim it stays in the body for 60 years , debunking their hopes that it could be found within 3-6 months .
You should at least have him tested first. To protect yourself and any future partners, but it wont necessarily protect you without physical protection.
The not christian like stuff,,well christians sin too. In fact we all have, none are righteous.
2007-01-30 16:26:39 · answer #8 · answered by Kathy 2 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Whether they are homo or bi, it doesn't matter - they're not truly Christian because God is against such immoral behavior. That person would have to confess their sins to God and surrender their life to Christ, turning from their immoral lifestyle. The bible says that you cannot serve God and man - it's either you please God and do what is right and moral in His eyes or you live your life to please man - can't have it both ways.
Luke 16:13 - No servant can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve /God and mammon.
Romans 1:31, 32 - Without understanding, covenantbreakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful: 32 - Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them.
1 Corinthians 6:9,10 - Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adultereers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, 10 - Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.
2007-01-30 16:22:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 4⤋
You said "whom I believe to be bisexual" have you asked him? If he has not said it, and you've not caught him in the act, he may not be. If he's not then it's all a mute point.
2007-01-30 16:37:03 · answer #10 · answered by Rain 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋