I dated this guy after I was divorced. We dated for 8 months then just kinda quit talking for a while. I am still not sure why. I was scared to ask him why. He found out I was having surgery and called brought me home afterwards and made sure I was okay. I have talked to him every couple weeks since then, but I have only seen him once since November. I had to change my phone number because of my ex and did not tell him yet.
Yesterday I saw him at the store and we talked for more than an hour. He knew my phone number was changed and wanted my new one. He said to give him a call and have lunch with him.
I really, really want to, but I am scared to now. I really like him and my daughter tells me that even her dad never looked at me that way when we were married.
I don't know if he still like me and wants to get together again or if he is just playin me. My ex played me so bad that I am scared to find out here.
How do I know if he is just playing or really likes me, too
2007-01-30 16:00:10 · 6 answers · asked by wyldfyre 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A lot of this has been my choice.. I could go see him and he would not turn me down, but I have been scared to.
I had surgery in September...
2007-01-30 16:01:32 · update #1
He was at one point concerned about it being a rebound relationship. My ex and I had not had a real relationship for years though.
The spark is still there with him like it never was with my ex. When I was talking to him sparks were just sizzling. Even my daughter sensed it.
2007-01-30 16:11:50 · update #2
With so many difficult obstacles that you have gone through, its certainly understandable why you are apprehensive.
That being said, you HAVE to try and see what you might have with this person.
There are two possible ways it can go:
A) You meet up, the sparks are no longer there, and you both move on.
B) The sparks ARE there, and you take the next step.
One thing to keep in mind is that being vulnerable is sometimes the only way you can find out the truth.
Try calling him, meeting up with him, and go with the flow. If you can muster the courage, tell him openly that you are worried about getting hurt, and that you want to know he is genuine. Chances are he may be enamored by you but is trying to give you a break after your last relationship. He might be waiting for you to make the first move to be sure you are ready for him and it will not be a rebound relationship.
And then it boils back down to this: Do you, in your heart, feel you are ready? Can you take rejection? Can you take love? Can you try to be open? Can you believe in yourself that its worth it?
If you can, then go ahead. Life is very short, and the last thing you want to do is be thing, 'If only I...."
Good luck darling!
2007-01-30 16:09:02 · answer #1 · answered by Baby girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will not know and you might get angry at yourself if you don't give yourself a chance to get to know him again. Be honest with him with your feelings. Nothing like a good friend to start off with again. Be honest and open. Communication is very important in any relationship. It is ok to be scared. Tell him you are scared. Tell him what you experienced and why you feel that way. There is nothing wrong with letting him know what your expectations are in a relationship either. That was one of the first things I would say to someone:
I expect honesty and communication. I want to just be friends first. If we decide, then we can let it develop into a relationship: If you want to date other people, that is fine, as long as you tell me you are dating other people. Things like that. If you were looking to date someone and they like to date around, and you don't, communication is upfront and feelings won't be hurt.
Take it slow and and go with the flow. As you get to know him and trust him, you will know if he is real or playing you. I think the friend thing is always a great way to start, although you seem to have already been there and past that stage a bit. Talk to him about it. If you don't give it a chance, you might wonder in the future.....
2007-01-30 16:12:15 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hope that your surgery went well. as for this man. just call him
and find out.he may like you and want to get with you. if nothing
else you know that he truly a friend. so just go from there. good
luck.
2007-01-30 16:06:18 · answer #3 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
proceed , though after a divorce it is very tough then also.
2007-01-30 16:07:44 · answer #4 · answered by journey2paradise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would call and see where it leads. just be aware that he could be just playin you.
2007-01-30 16:05:43 · answer #5 · answered by Tami B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it.
2007-01-30 16:03:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋