My PARENTS R PICKING on me, (AND they don't even know it)?

Question

k I'm a girl 4'11, 16 yrs. old, lately this past year I HAVE really become REALLY SELF-CONSIOUS of my height, and I doubt that I'll grow more, (even though I reaaally want too)

And my dad keeps saying..

"Drink milk, so you can grow more.."

"Exersize so you can grow more..."

"Sleep early so you can grow more..."

"Next year hopefully you will grow to 5'4 or 5'5...
just sleep more"

"Take vitamins so you'll grow more..."

And my mother is like....

"Did you grow more?...wow your almost as tall as your father"

WHEN in reality i was wearing 1 inch slippers, and my father is literally a COUPLE of inches way taller of me.


THEY ASK THESE QUESTIONS EVERY other day or week, they are basically giving me false hope and just making me more self consious...

my relatives are also like...

"too bad your not as tall as your father..."

or..

"ur short"

THEYRE COMMENTS , AGGRAVATE ME SO MUCH!
I tell them to stop saying that, but they don't listen...

2 guy who first answerd: Yea my parents just want me to be average height or tall , my mother keeps saying "ooo if you were tall you could have been a model"

2 guy who answered 2nd:
I don't care about if guys like short girls , that doesnt make me feel better

Answer 1

i don't agree that your parents are picking on you. they are trying to boost your confidence and give you hope that you will still get tall. why? because they really care for you. you seem to be misinterpreting their actions. parents would never do anything like pick on their child. look, if you don't grow taller anymore so what? yeah it sucks. but does it mean that you have to be too upset about it? definitely not! you can still do a lot of good/worthwhile things that tall people can't do. it's just a matter of having a positive attitude and outlook in life.

but i can never say the same for your relatives. just ignore them

Answer 2

Try telling them how you feel about them saying this to you (or if you want to you could ask them to put them selves in your shoes) don't just tell them to stop it or to shut up about it. If that doesn't work just try to ignore it I know it bothers you but if it gets you that mad then go to your room and punch a pillow or something. I do that sometimes when my parents and friend comment on my weight. You could go to your room and write that sometimes helps people feel better. Then talking about it to a friend makes other people feel better. If your holding you emotions in don't it is bad for you. Then don't mind your size you might or might not grow anymore (don't mean to offend you or anything sorry if I am with that comment) but don't mind it just accept it about your self and move on. Life's too short to waste it on complaining. Good Luck with everything.=)

Answer 3

Yeah, it could be frustrating to hear words like that, especially coming from your parents. If they see that it is affecting you, then they should not bring it up, period.

You should sit down with them during dinner and tell them this, "Mom, Dad, I know you two mean well with trying to make me feel better with the words you say to me about my height, but it is not helping me by telling me all the time. I would rather have you not mention those kinds of words to me, because it is not helping me feel better, it is hurting me even more. If you want to help me, don't mention about my height again."

Those are easy words to say to them. They just need to know that it is not helping you at all with hearing those words. They should say other words to you instead like, "how was your day in school, what would you like for dinner, lets bake some cookies, etc....you get the point.

Parents should express love to their children, not hurt words to make them feel self-conscious about themselves. (smile)

And if they don't stop saying that to you, all you can do is ignore their words or find something else to do to get your mind off things.

Answer 4

You wrote: "I tell them to stop saying that, but they don't listen...". Nobody hears you? Time to get in-your face LOUD. I mean it: have an absolute hissy fit directly in the person's face so they can be MADE to understand how their hurtful comments are. Scream alot and us the "f-word'. When done, stomp out of the room. That will prove the VERY last instance the other person will dare to open their gob. I want you to shock the living pants off them. You need to really, Really, REALLY make it CRYSTAL-CLEAR that their unthinking behavior has crossed a threshold and is unacceptable to you. It's called "SETTING BOUNDARIES".

Answer 5

I had the same problem all my life about my weight. No matter what I said, they never stopped. Instead, I learned to let them live in their ignorance and not let it bother me. I found it easier to just let them say what they wanted to say and not let it affect me. My childhood was filled with insecurity, and that insecurity followed me into my high school days. Luckily, I found people who cared for me despite my weight, despite the way I look, and I found that I really don't care if my family members were being ignorant.

Summary:
They'll never learn, so just let it go in one ear and out the other. Approach it with a "yea yea yea" attitude (of course don't say it out loud. even if they're rude to you, don't stoop to their level)

Answer 6

Just say to them: "Precious things come in small packages."

I am short... 4'11... but I never had trouble getting a date; never had trouble having a boyfreind; never had trouble getting marriage proposals.

You are a girl after all. You don't need to be tall.

Answer 7

parents love to make your life crap and people love to add to that crap. in life no one ever gives you brake. when you try to ''let it go'' it never really escapes the back of your mind and eventually one day you will find your self suffering deep depression and all alone but yet when you face your problems they just laugh at your attempt to stand up for yourself and they refuse to back down. its a no win situation.

Answer 8

You need to ask if you can talk to them and when you are all together, express your feelings. You may start by saying, "I feel pressure or something like that. I am sure they mean no harm.

Answer 9

Short women are attractive to men (most men prefer short-to-average women). Most women prefer average-to-tall men. Life's strange :-)

Answer 10

Is it so bad if you're small?

Just tell them SERIOUSLY to stop it if it's bugging you. Tell them. If they STILL don't, then keep saying it. If they don't, I guess you should just ignore them.

They just want the best for you...