Well, here's the thing.. ive been in this rollar coaster of a relationship, if u can call it that for the past 2 years. I want to end it, but can't help myself because im really in love. But the thing is when I try to distance myself from the said person and concentrate on other aspects, he keeps calling, leaves messages etc etc. Now for the past week it was all good and week (this is the best stable time period of our relatonship, since we're normally back on square one after 3-4 days tops) Now seeing as how i dont want out, im trying to make it work but now it's him whose gone all weird on me. Saying, he'd rather be alone. No response to my messages, won't call. Now when i stop doing all this, he starts it up. Im kind of tired of all of this, but i dont know what to do?
2007-01-30 15:36:28 · 17 answers · asked by Kevin M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its about the chase and the fact that he is commitment phobic
2007-01-30 15:38:36 · answer #1 · answered by Mopar Muscle Gal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im in the same exact thing. The only thing I can tell u is that leave him alone for a while, like a month or 2.
2007-01-30 23:43:09 · answer #2 · answered by G-BOY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the reason why he kept leaving you messages and stuff is that he noticed that you have been avoiding him.
he has been thinking about it and the way he is acting now it is the result
talk to him,you know sometimes we wonder too much but then we never realize that all we have to do is ask.
could be the chase but what if it is not?
2007-01-30 23:50:37 · answer #3 · answered by J o h n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now that you are trying he is probably trying to make you go what he went thru. so much for the games break it off and take some space if it was meant to be you all will find each other , if not you will find someone else. give yourself a chance.
2007-01-30 23:43:06 · answer #4 · answered by pink daisy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wans to be the one in charge ... and is making sure he keeps some kind of strings attached but doesnt want the relationship. This sounds like I dont want you but i dont want anyone else to want you either. It is his way of keeping you involved while he can do what he wants
2007-01-30 23:41:28 · answer #5 · answered by Pinky75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would find better things to do and when he doesn't call, find friends to spend time with. I also would not be available when he calls for awhile. It seems he is playing mind games with you, but you have to judge. Good luck.
2007-01-30 23:42:29 · answer #6 · answered by Jan C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sound lik he playing games, this back and forth nonsense is
crazy and it time to let it go, if you want out then you need to let'
him know once and for all that it over no, phones calls. text etc
you cant keep going on with it, he doing it because are allowing
him to do this to you.
2007-01-30 23:45:43 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say but the best thing i can say is he realized that you started distancing you from the other.now he realizes what u were doing and he has decided to pull away.might even seeing if u will come to him?
2007-01-30 23:52:50 · answer #8 · answered by william h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should start slow and tell him you want to take a break,through that break you should find out if your love for that person is uncontrollable.
2007-01-30 23:41:44 · answer #9 · answered by elegyofnight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a more stable guy. He's in it for the chase and drama.
2007-01-30 23:38:27 · answer #10 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to go shave his back, get a life, and go to the zoo and continue acting like the stupid ape that he really is!!!
2007-01-31 00:22:08 · answer #11 · answered by ♥ misschels ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋