My boyfriend and I did it twice Sat night. We tried to do it Sunday morning but he couldn't finish after 30 minutes or so, so we stopped. Then we tried to do it again later but he lost the hardness. What is going on? Are we just doing it too much? Is he not excited by me? He seems like he is, at least he loves to kiss me for hours. Thanks for your help!
2007-01-30 15:31:36 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if this isn't a usual problem, maybe he is particularly stressed or worried about something; this can have that effect on guys.
2007-01-30 15:36:30 · answer #1 · answered by learning_to_live_616 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have some form of erectile dysfunction. That could be brought on by stress--the duress caused by the requirement to perform--or some other physical problem. It may be that he's better off having spontaneous sex than when he has to think about it and worry that he won't satisfy you. Enjoy the kissing--so many men don't feel it's worth their time--and suggest ways you can give each other pleasure without the requirement that he maintain an erection. Explore things that he physically enjoys without placing demands on him. If he managed it twice in one night, I'll bet even money his equipment is in good order. It just may be more mental than physical. Oh, and P.S., it isn't you!
2007-01-30 23:40:18 · answer #2 · answered by Yo' Mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont stress to much, its not you, not really even him, when guys get stressed out tired moody or maybe even thinking of how he is gonna please you can make him go a lil erm shy, just keep telling him it is fine if he is worried but it has nothing to do with you, perhaps if the problem keeps going try some horney goat weed, available at supermarkets, if that still dont help then get him to go to a doctor....
2007-01-30 23:39:09 · answer #3 · answered by innocentkitty2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is on his end. He's probably not focusing as he should or worrying about pleasing u too much! I had the same prob at one point. Just slow down a lil.
2007-01-30 23:35:55 · answer #4 · answered by G-BOY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Errmm..... weeeelll.... its probably not that you aren't attracted or he isn't attracted to you, because it seems like you guys r really into it... but what my advice to the problem is simple; have him try Viagra or... ermm... a special kind of pump for a special appendage. You or him should not be embarrassed by this, you two are just trying to satisfy your needs.
2007-01-30 23:38:22 · answer #5 · answered by smurfinholiday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK GET THIS INTO YOUR HEAD!! i'm freaking serious, this is why i dumped my ex gal. she thought this one time that i couldn't finish and then couldn't stay hard it was 'cause i thought she was fat. I had to leave her (it was the perverbial straw that broke the camel's back). he still likes you, he still thinks you're hot. it just happens. that's all. don't ask questions. don't mention it. just DON'T unless you want to hurt his feelings and make him mad. he is guaranteed embarrassed about it. it's something that just happens.
2007-01-30 23:38:30 · answer #6 · answered by holyitsacar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can't get an erection for some reason. Maybe he has a medical problem or something.
2007-01-30 23:36:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys run out of steam. take it easy and enjoy each other's company, don't put any pressure on him. there are other ways to be close.
2007-01-30 23:37:15 · answer #8 · answered by snickersmommie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give the poor guy a day or two to recover. Don't overthink it. I bet he's more embarrassed than you are.
2007-01-30 23:37:04 · answer #9 · answered by Gary W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too much of anything is no good for anyone.
2007-01-30 23:38:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋