I have a situation. There is a guy that has been hitting on me for about 2 weeks now and he is in a relationship and so am I. He wants us to be friend with benefits even though we are both seeing someone else seriously for quite some time. I am leaning toward it because my boyfriend is not very physical with me sometimes when I want him and I think this guy will be. I haven't done anything yet, but what do I do with my boyfriend. We have been through alot and we have been together for about 2 years now and he is not thinking about a serious commitment anytime soon. Do I see if the grass is greener on the other side or do I be true to him?
2007-01-30 15:28:53 · 8 answers · asked by missmozee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Normally I would tell u to be true to him, but it sounds like he has u sitting around and is not showing u any attention, so go for it, but make sure whatever u do dont regret the decision u made because thats what u wanted.
2007-01-30 15:33:52 · answer #1 · answered by G-BOY 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You say your current guy isn't thinking about commitment. Do you honestly see a future with him? Don't let two years of history distort your answer, just be serious.
If you do- STAY AWAY from this new flirt! Friends With Benefits (henceforth FWBs) are just about always bad. Think about how your guy would respond to you having a fwb.
If you don't see a future- You should probably just call the relationship off. Two years of going nowhere, not even a physical relationship, is a warning sign that this guy can't provide you with what you want.
If you do end up calling it off with the guy, feel free to get all the fwbs that you want. Have fun. Just realize that it probably won't go in the direction you want.
Furthermore, depending on how considerate you are feeling, think about his girl's reaction to his fwb. Would she approve? Would she know?
As a person, I despise the fwb system. It's even worse if one (or both) parties are in a relationship already. It may be physically gratifying, but nothing good can come from it. But hey, two consenting adults... I guess I see nothing wrong with it. Just be careful.
2007-01-30 23:38:10 · answer #2 · answered by Bobby S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is are you ready to hide a relationship from your man ? Man #1 if he isn't thinking about a serious relationship then dump him because he wasted two years of your single life. Man #2 He isn't a man for commitment either. Do the math. Grass can't be greener because he is in a relationship too. Plus you don't know if Man #2 is just talking junk to get laid, he might be worse than Man #1.
2007-01-30 23:39:40 · answer #3 · answered by LIZA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends with benefits rarely ends nicely...And if your guy is not meeting your needs you need to talk to him about that and not find it else where...espcially with a guy that already has a girl...
This is so wrong on many levels.
This also has nothing to do with your guy not wanting to commit to a serious relationship anytime soon, becuase you would not get it from a friend with benefits either...I think you are just fustrated....ah...more than one way....
2007-01-30 23:36:51 · answer #4 · answered by Mechelle C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deffiantly be true to him. If he knows that you want to get more physical with him, he might just do that. He probably doesn't even know he isn't.
2007-01-30 23:34:55 · answer #5 · answered by k.s. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can you see 4 people getting hurt?
That is what could happen...better to be single then chase...
2007-01-30 23:33:56 · answer #6 · answered by Zawa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have to keep in mind what goes around come's around. If you don't want your boyfriend doing that to you. ......then it's easy...don't do it to him.
2007-01-30 23:33:07 · answer #7 · answered by Stefi13 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first put yourself in his shoes how would you feel if he came up to you and told you that?
2007-01-30 23:33:26 · answer #8 · answered by hilo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋