how do u deal with the pain form your past?

Question

i had a rele bad childhood.i dont feel like i can take the pain nemore.please help me cope with the pain.

Answer 1

Hi,

Childhood is very important for building a strong adult. Did you try some therapies yet (with a psy or so)? For some people it might help. I know there is some deep pains which can be so deep inside that even when you feel you are healed about those past pains, they can come back anytime in your life and even make you sick or ruin a part of your present life, just don't let your past coming in your present life, be get rid off of those terrible moments. Take the problem with all its importance, if you need help, find it, talk to a close person (relative or friend) if you have anyone you can really trust and you feel is not going to judge you. If not, you can see a psy who might help you much because they are used to have patients just like you, be sure you are not alone in your case, millions of persons have passed through by what you passed through. And at times, a stranger (like a psy) might help you more because you don't know this person, he/she is just a stranger, a professional who knows how he/she can help you. Even if you have a very strong personality, those past pains can hurt you at long term more deeply than you might think, so that is why you have to find help the sooner possible before it hurts you more now and later in your life.

It also might exists groups of people who have endured a real bad childhood, i don't know where, but if you decided to see a psy, this doctor could give you reference of groups or so i guess.

Don't isolate yourself and don't keep all of your pain for yourself, it could just hurt you more one more time. Feel free to talk to someone you feel comfortable with. Do NOT let those "ghosts" (bad time) pourished your actual life, you got those, they have to leave and you have the right to have a good life now. Don't feel sorry or guilty for what happened to you, it was not your fault, you were a kid, kids are not responsible for their childhood, they only are kids. I'm really sorry for your past though, i feel i have to tell you that, but again, you are not alone, so find the help you need.

I hope your life will turn good. You are the only one who can change it if you want to, you just need a little help. What is a little help if your life changes to become better, you just have to turn the page on your past and it is not as simple as that, so again, if you feel you need to, consult a psy (and don't be ashamed of doing it, it is no big deal), your health, your balance and your happiness depends of it and are more important than anything else to you. Do not mind about what people can think about you, your life is more important than anything they can think, don't pay attention to people like that, they won't help you. Find help of people who can help you only.

Good luck in anything you may want in life!
Sincerely!

Answer 2

The way to recover from any traumatic event is to put it in proper perspective and move into the future. If you can't find the way to do that yourself, you need to seek help from a therapist. When you learn to set past events aside and focus on the now and future, things will improve. If you continue to let the past interfere with what you do now, then it won't. A bad childhood is no excuse for a bad adulthood, unless you want it to be, or let it be. That is a choice only you can make. I suggest you contact a therapist, psychologist, or psychiatrist in the very near future, to help set you on the path to a better future. You have to help yourself, nobody else can do that for you.

Answer 3

Life does get better. You grow up and are out on your own, and can make your own choices. One of those choices is to decide to stop dwelling on your past, and to be responsible for your own life and your own happiness. Letting your life be ruined by something that happened in your childhood (assuming you are an adult now) is just giving power to someone or something in your past. Live in the now, and let it go. Sometimes it takes counseling to make this happen, but sometimes counseling just keeps you wrapped up in the past. Look forward, let go, and remember there are a LOT of people out here who have had to overcome a less than ideal past. If we can do it, you can do it!! Good Luck!!

Answer 4

Not to sound careless, but ask almost anyone, and they've had traumatic childhood experiences, it's all relative. A little therapy may help, but I think time is the best healer. You seem young, but in time, the bad things fade and you start to appreciate all of the good things that happened in your life. I thought I hated my parents all of my adolescence, and now I can't go a couple of days without talking to them. Things change...just stay positive.

Answer 5

I don't know too many people who have had ideal childhoods, so welcome to the club. You need to establish your self-worth. In other words, you need to fall in love with yourself. You need to put yourself first more often. You need to allow yourself to indulge in life's little pleasures. Buy yourself something nice and don't take it back for a refund in a couple days. This may sound silly, but read or take up a hobby. Look forward to tomorrow and try not to look back. You need to realize that you can't have high expectations concerning other people, in that do not expect from others what they are incapable of giving to you. Just try not to dwell on the past, it will eat you up.

Answer 6

seek therapy
Or move on.. shelving the pain