its taking me a lot longer then i thought to get over a man and its driving me crazy and making me want to drink...what do i do? there are so many things that i hate about him but i don't know what it is..i just can't get him out of my head...its like obsessive its weird and i hate the person i become when i complain and complain about him! i know that i can do better but why is it so hard??
2007-01-30 15:21:28 · 9 answers · asked by annette1911 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
B/c you want something that you cannot have. Don't even mention his name...that is why you are still stuck on him. Honey trust me, I am going through the same thing right now. But the process of letting go is to stop thinking, talking, or even dreaming about it. Just let it go. You said it yourself: "I can do so much better." So just do it. ( easier said than done.....I know) Good Luck!
2007-01-30 15:26:37 · answer #1 · answered by Stefi13 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
by the sounds of things it is probably for the best to leave this relationship behind you . It's hard at first but believe this...TIME HEALS ALL WOUNDS . In the meanwhile avoid doing things that would be harmfull to yourself , drinking is definately not going to do anything to help you , it will just make life miserable . Knowing that you can do better is encouraging . Try keep yourself busy as possible , socialize with friends and family , join some grops, clubs or sports , You'll meet someone right for you . Don't hate yourself EVER
2007-01-30 15:35:44 · answer #2 · answered by brother_nature_2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some relationships become addictive. You feed off of each other ... there are highs and lows and its like a roller coaster ride. Things take time to get over and its hard to listen to people when they say just dont think about it. We have all been there with wanting to call, crying one minute, being angry the next , then happy and feeling like we can move on. I can tell you not to call, but you probably will... i can say dont think of the good times but you will...this is something only you can do.
I went through it myself last month and it wasnt pretty
The first thing i did was bag up all the stuff he gave me and toss it.. and i mean nice stuff , jewelry , figurines, collectables, pictures etc.. That was hard because i really liked the stuff but once it was out it was much easier for me to move on.
Next , start thinking about the bad times for everytime he did something good think of something really bad he did.
The last thing is to keep repeating to yourself (yes this sounds stupid) I do not deserve that , I am better than that , I am a good person and deserve to be happy
then the last thing is to indulge in yourself , your hair, makeup , facials, tanning , clothes whatever you can to make yourself relax and feel better about yourself. Dont indulge in alcohol it will only make things worse and strengthen your depression. YOu will think what you are thinking now but 10x more.
trust me , makeup, a facial mask and a new outfit does wonders
2007-01-30 15:38:49 · answer #3 · answered by Pinky75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off think more of yourself. You want to drink, you don't like yourself when you are around him and there are things you hate about him. It is probably so hard becuase bad relationship or not it was what your were used to. Change is hard. Honey let this one go becuase I am pretty darn sure it won't be getting any better. Unless you just like misery, cut the cord and run the other way. Find something to keep you really busy and if you are still talking to him, quit now, cold turkey!
2007-01-30 15:28:02 · answer #4 · answered by healergirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound just like a teen friend of mine. First of all don't drink. It only makes things worse and you're only hurting yourself. It can be hard but for one it's hard because you're making it hard. Find things to do that occupy yourself and your mind and things that you enjoy. Surround yourself with friends and family and spend time doing fun things with them and talking about things. Cry if you have to. Make a list of all the things you hate about him and why and what he did or said to you then destroy it with a rage if you must. Your heart will heal and your mind will forget this eventually. But you're making the first major step in the right direction here by asking for help. I wish you the best girl. It's hard getting over a first love I know I went through it when I had to let my ex go. Yes even us guys hurt too after a breakup.
2007-01-30 15:28:41 · answer #5 · answered by dave_83501 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, no one makes you drink, stop blaming this on other people. Get over it and move on. Time heals all wounds. Be patient.
2007-01-30 15:26:09 · answer #6 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because u really felt something for him, and might just want closure in the relationship.
2007-01-30 15:26:09 · answer #7 · answered by G-BOY 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's always hard. first off - DO NOT DRINK HIM AWAY!!!! I know from experience, I used to drink heavily and it destroys you, and all that will happen is that you will be drunk and be thinking about him.
2007-01-30 15:26:48 · answer #8 · answered by holyitsacar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because at one point in time you cared about him.
2007-01-30 15:29:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋