What is a healthy sex life for a couple, together for 2 years with child?

Question

I am at a loss for how to approach my fiance sexually. Nothing seems to get her interest. She doesn't want to be touched she only seems to kiss me around my daughter. ( It seems she does that to show her we are in love.) when we are alone it is hard to even get her to look at me. If i look over at her on the couch she rolls her eyes and says, "what?" like I am doing something wrong, or just seriously bugging her. She doesn't have much of a sense of humor any more, and I mostly feel like a sperm donor / room mate. I just don't know what to do anymore. I don't feel like myself and don't know how to turn things around with out coming off like it is contrived. I have told her to tell me when she is in the mood and I will be ready and willing and she told me that is probably best. I can't even get her to really smile any more unless my daughter is around other wise I feel invisable. I know this is loaded I am just at a loss.

Answer 1

Sounds to me like she's carrying around a load of anger and resentment over something. I can't tell you what, but I can tell you that you won't fix it by bugging her. See if you can get her into counseling with you.