Ok.. my brother is going to be married in 2009 and he wants me to be a bridesmaid.. Hes being so rude to me lately and has been hurting me alot... I mean enough to make me cry.. Should I just ignore him and his fiancee and just push him away from my life for good? Im tired of giving ppl second chances.. They always mess up again..
2007-01-30 15:00:54 · 10 answers · asked by Jen J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Don't push him out. Just talk to him. Maybe there is something wrong and he is looking for someone to talk too.
2007-01-30 15:09:07 · answer #1 · answered by melodi_jean_99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's getting married...in 2009? What the %$ll? Is he not sure he really wants to do this?
A LOT can happen in that long period of time. For example, you could BOTH grow up and figure out how to talk to one another.
How about taking the brother out for coffee and telling him how he makes you feel and that you wish you two had a more fun and loving relationship. And if you are this young and THIS bitter about "giving people second chances- honey you are in for a world of personal pain.
Here's a newsflash- EVERYONE ELSE ON THE PLANET IS NOT HERE TO DO EVERYTHING THE WAY YOU WANT IT DONE.
YOU are the other half of every single relationship you are in. Take HALF the responsibility when it goes south.
And lastly, why is he asking you to be a bridesmaid? The bridesmaids are chosen by THE BRIDE. Did you future sister in law ask you to be a bridesmaid? If she did, then take HER out for coffee-alone-too and tell her about how you and your brother are arguing like four year olds over juice box. Maybe she can help referee.
2007-01-30 16:16:41 · answer #2 · answered by Mimi Di 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's your brother-- don't push him completely out of your life. i think you should just try to put up with him as best you can. let him call you or work out arrangements for you to meet, but if he does call u or w/e answer and calmly talk to him. he obviously cares about b/c he asked you to be a bridesmaid in the first place. he might just be sort of stressed out with having a new fiancee and less freedom than he's had before.
omg-- i totally sound like a shrink-- srry- hope it helps anyway!
2007-01-30 15:12:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhm, just tell him to stop being a jerk. As for being a bridesmaid it's really not that big of a deal. You just have to wear a dress and stand there for awhile then enjoy the reception. Don't be so dramatic. There might be a day when you need him.
2007-01-30 15:13:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family sometimes take close members for granted and they don't realise how or when they r hurting you. the best thing to do is talk about it, there could be other reasons behind your brothers behaviour that your don't realise (even though that's not an exception). Family is too important in the long run to not try and work things out. If you walk away now, you might regret it more later when you really need them. its hard to talk and express but i think its the best solution, especially when its such an important event in his life and also yours.
life is full of 2nd chances, even if it annoys us.. one day we might need that 2nd chance ourselves.
2007-01-30 15:52:22 · answer #5 · answered by AngD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried talking to him.. if you cant talk to him than write him a letter telling him how you feel. i know that one of my biggest regrets was fighting with my sister before her wedding and out of anger i sold my ticket to hawaii and i sat at home the alone the day she got married and i will never get that day back again.. we have since made up but do you really want to push him out of your life before you try and work it out?
2007-01-30 18:49:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't make any rash decisions just yet. I mean, his wedding IS a full 2 years or more away. People change as they age and mature.
2007-01-30 15:22:53 · answer #7 · answered by MelB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your brother that if he can't be civil and kind to you then you do not feel comfortable being in his wedding. I would then just leave it up to him. He should be nice to you because you're his sister, not because he wants you to be in the wedding.
2007-01-30 15:18:56 · answer #8 · answered by babybunny729 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you don't appreciate his rudeness and if it goes on for much longer, you won't be able to take it. Try to stay close though.
2007-01-30 15:08:57 · answer #9 · answered by kindykanes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either put up with it, or get him out of your life.
2007-01-30 15:05:32 · answer #10 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋