My daughter gets worked up so quickly that there's really no warning -- you'd better give in quick or spend the next hour cleaning up puke. Standing firm isn't an option; she'd puke and cry for another hour while I cleaned up the floor, and I have a newborn to attend at the same time. She's also getting past the age of distraction. Any other tips besides caving in? She does tend to do it more when she's overtired, like any tantrum.
2007-01-30 14:46:36 · 5 answers · asked by anniedare 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
this might sound harsh, walk a way as you don't care and when she is done have her help you clean it. it worked with my son. My mother also was lived after she asked how I get my son to stop doing the same thing.
2007-01-30 15:24:59 · answer #1 · answered by lady_jane_az 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wager that she has found a not-so-lovely way of keeping your attention on her and away from the new baby. I would buy a mattress protector and if she starts, simply put her in her room until she is calmer. Her room is not a punishment, it is her inner sanctum, her place to go to deal with strong emotions. She can come out at any time when she has control of herself and then she can help you clean. At a calm time, tell her, "Susie, when you are too upset to talk to me, you need to go to your room and calm down." She may not pick up on all the words right now but after you repeat that a few times, she will get it.
The best thing you can do is prevent the tantrum to begin with. Make sure that she has a rather predictable schedule and that there is lots of one on one time with her. Make sure that she is still referred to as the baby sometimes (unless she abhors it); just because you had a new baby doesn't make her any older or any more mature. She was your baby three months ago, she still is now. One of the ways that humans remain emotionally healthy (even on a small not having a tantrum scale) is touch. Make sure that whenever she is within reach, she gets a kiss, a pat, a hug, a tickle, some sort of connecting touch. Many first-borns find themselves with a sudden lack of physical affection when a new baby arrives and it is easy for parents to forget how important that touch is.
Giving in may keep her from throwing up but only until you need to say no. Ultimately, you are teaching her that having a tantrum and puking is how to get what you want. Assign her a spot in the kitchen (or somewhere without carpet) to sit in when she is having a tantrum or send her to her room. It will get worse before it gets better but when it stops working, she will find another way of expressing herself.
2007-01-30 15:45:04 · answer #2 · answered by Huggles-the-wise 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, my brother did the same thing--pitched a fit until he puked. My mom "had it" one day and told him "Stop it! That is not okay." He never did it again. He was looking for attention and trying to get his own way. Don't give in; be the parent.
2007-01-30 15:53:41 · answer #3 · answered by amjeso 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put her on a bed schedule so she don't reach the tantrum stage. Could it be she's lacking your attention? Maybe if you made a bed schedule for her and read her a book before bed time it would comfort her some. Good Luk.
2007-01-30 15:30:32 · answer #4 · answered by Froggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing I could think of to do is just call your pediatrician, that's part of what they are there for too, it might not be so good that your baby makes herself puke, if it happens too often she could get esophagus problems.
2007-01-30 18:03:42 · answer #5 · answered by Mel B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋