Every bridal shower I have been to, the groom has been there. Even non-couple showers. My groom doesn't want to go. What do you think- should a groom attend the shower?
2007-01-30 14:19:27 · 23 answers · asked by justjen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'd say No, especially if he doesn't want to be there in the first place! It's supposed to be a ladies only kind of thing anyway. My fiance is coming at the very end to help transport gifts and that sort of thing. During the shower he is going out with his buddies to have lunch and watch whatever game is on.
2007-01-30 15:29:54 · answer #1 · answered by MelB 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I've been to many showers and have been a bridesmaid 6 times, and I have never seen a groom stay at a shower. I think it is perfectly fine for the groom not to show up at all.
What has been my experience is the groom gets the bride to the shower or, more commonly, if he shows up at all he makes an appearance at the end to help put the presents in the car. I think it is perfectly fine for the guy not to be there, especially if he doesn't want to.
2007-01-30 14:26:36 · answer #2 · answered by Contessa 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he doesn't want to go, don't make him. The groom usually doesn't attend a bridal shower, and unless you're having a couple's shower just enjoy your day and let him go out with the guys for a few hours. Besides, you don't want him sitting there uncomfortably as you open lingerie and massage oils in front of your friends and your mother.
2007-01-30 19:41:51 · answer #3 · answered by Hamlette 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've never heard of a bridal shower where the groom attends. This is a lady's party. Enjoy it and let him have some time to himself.
2007-01-30 14:22:39 · answer #4 · answered by Privratnik 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He shouldn't be forced to go. That's odd that you have seen groom's at every shower, most that I have been to the groom has not attended. And who can blame them, a bunch of women sitting around, chatting/gossiping, eating and opening up gifts that are mainly housewares and kitchen stuff. I have seen some to the shower after it is over, to help the bride transport all of their new gifts.
If he doesn't come, I don't think anyone will think badly of either of you. Would you like to go to your Fi's bachelor party? Probably not, kind of a similar deal.
2007-01-30 14:28:26 · answer #5 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No - the bridal shower should be strictly for the girls! That's when you get to talk about the girlie stuff, play girlie games, dress up, and do the whole "makeover party" without worrying about the guys being there. You'll be doing him a favor by not pressuring him to come, trust me. The guys are supposed to have their own bachelor party if they want. If not, make sure all the guys get to go out and do something fun together without women. Congrats on the wedding!
;)
2007-01-30 14:33:37 · answer #6 · answered by mtngrl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey, if he doesn't go, then why should he? It doesn't sound like you care either. I've never heard of it being a tradition for him to show up (well, in some cultures I have)... just make it your own tradition to say no groom at the bridal shower! Enjoy and congratulations!!
2007-01-30 14:23:14 · answer #7 · answered by bunny 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband didn't come to either of my bridal showers, and I haven't been to many where the groom does show up. I don't blame your groom for not wanting to go, it's considered to be a "girl" thing. Now if he were gay....I don't think he'd mind going, but since he's marrying you, I'm assuming that's not the case.
;-) Seriously, don't make him go, he'll resent it, won't have any fun, and be miserable. Let him stay home and watch basketball, or whatever sport is on right now.
2007-01-30 14:33:12 · answer #8 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No, grooms, (or any Guys for that matter), shouldn't go to bridal showers, and just for the record...
Brides shouldn't go to Bachelor parties.
2007-01-30 14:26:02 · answer #9 · answered by thearthound 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
NO! I am adapting a little bit with the times when guys go to baby showers, but back off from the bridal shower.
Make a fun day of it, just a bunch of girls. You'll have the rest of your life to spend with him.
2007-01-30 14:23:23 · answer #10 · answered by Miranda M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋