Almost 10yrs ago i was raped by a ex "bf" (if u want to call him that) in his van. i didn't report it or anything but everytime i see a van like that i freak out. i didn't c him for almost 8-9yrs till now!! I'm almost positve he works in a store where i go alot w/my bf!!! evertime i c (who i think is him) i freak out-like it happend all over again!!
Will it EVER go away? BTW,never went to counsling 4 it! (i was 13yrs then)
2007-01-30 14:08:19 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, you won't get over it. Ever.
You can try to deal with it.
My best friend was raped, and even though she told her parents eventually, it still tortures her. A lot.
She was able to talk to me, only a little though.
There are anonymous support groups, where people that have been through the same thing as you are there. It helps for a lot of people, and some tell me that it's less pressure than one- on- one counseling.
Best wishes for the future, and hopefully you'll be able to deal with it without it hindering your life. It can really drag you down, and those around you.
2007-01-30 14:14:19 · answer #1 · answered by Dreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same thing happen to me but by my step dad. I went to counsling for it and i promise it will still help you if you went now because you have to let all those emotions out some how and that will do it.
eventually it will be easyer to cope with. you will never fully get over it but youll feel better
i hope i helped you some
2007-01-30 22:16:06 · answer #2 · answered by menos_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a difficult thing you are going through and I am sorry that you went through it. I hope your boyfriend is very understanding about your situatuion and if you havent told him, you should.
I really think going to a counselor might help. Even if it did happen a long time ago because you are still having a hard time dealing with it. They will be able to help you work through it.
I wish you well.
2007-01-30 22:15:14 · answer #3 · answered by moo shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counselling will definately help out a lot.
Otherwise, you might not be so freaked out after a while, but you still might feel a little nervous or something.
You may just need to talk to someone about it... vent your emotions. It really could help a ton.
2007-01-30 22:16:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
(Man;s Point of View) I'm dealing with someone, with that very same Problem. I can attest to what you're going through. All we can say is. Hang in there. Put it in God's hands. `Cause we don't have The Power that He does.
2007-01-30 22:17:25 · answer #5 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really feel for you but him more cause i understand you but him i dont all the whores out there why he didnt pay no means no and for the most important person you honey get counseling i did and im getting over it god will handle him and you will get over it dont give him the satisfaction of knowin you are still leary of him cause he might try it again and only god knows what you might do sorry im so mad by this im rambling but sweetie it to shall passand you will get over this i promise you will and ill pray for us........
2007-01-30 22:22:59 · answer #6 · answered by Darnella C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it will be hard my self i was malested whei was 16 it took me 20m years to get over it see if you can find a nother store to go to i know it will be hard iv ben there and it was hard for me . the best thing is dont think about it find some thing els that will tack your mind off it . its probly not to late you could go to the police and report it so if he dose it agin he will go to preson for 5 to 10 years thats wat i would do i did nothing but dont let it get to you thats bad carma it will cuse you to get grey hair it will tack time
2007-01-30 22:24:17 · answer #7 · answered by virgil w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
still can report him- on stat rape charges- does he still have the van
you do need to go for counselling because this will never go away
2007-01-30 22:14:38 · answer #8 · answered by manblind1969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, wow go get councelling for goodness' sakes!
2007-01-30 22:13:02 · answer #9 · answered by sally 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋