I am married... very happily married, but...?

Question

I have a crush on a younger man. I don't even see him as a man, but more like a little boy. He's eighteen years younger than me and was a colleague for awhile. Now everytime I hear his name or talk to him or see him I get this tingly feeling. He always says the right stuff. For example, I had not spoken to him in a few days and he called tonight. He said, first of all I want you to know that I am having major withdrawals. I said, from what, and he said , from you. He is such a suck up and he makes me feel so good. I think there's a question in here somewhere.

Answer 1

Me too!!! I know what you're talking about. My "crush" is a very good friend of mine who I met while a non-traditional student in college. He's only 21 and I'm 39, but I adore this guy. He's so cute and cuddly, but I don't want to "bang" him. I just want to bring him home and take care of him. He neds tender love and care-- like I give my children.

Don't make too much out of it. He's crushing on you too, but he doesn't want you. He just needs someone to crush on. It's like practice for him and staying in shape for you. Enjoy it.

Answer 2

Take it from someone who was recently cheated on it is not worth it and I would venture to say that if you are having these feelings then you truly aren't happily married...Back away and tell your husband you are feeling these things and maybe together yall can figure out what is lacking in your marriage to make you feel this way..

Answer 3

Some people may bash me for saying this, but, honey, have your fun. You can imagine and flirt and have crushes on whoever you want. Its a free country.

Just keep your hands off.

It's never worth it.

Answer 4

it's ok to have a crush on someone, but there's a problem if you acted on it. you are married and this boy i think, just lightens your day, is all. i think it's cute!!!