Girlfriend hates my forgetfullness?

Question

I am not asking this in a way that I am forgetting in the relationship, but its just that I have a problem forgetting stuff all the time, I am a forgetful type of person and tonight my girlfriend told me that my forgetfullness is too much for her to handle, yet after talking to her on the phone she still says I Love You, I feel that true love is when you can overlook a flaw of another person, I feel she don't love me by making the comment that my forgetfulness is too much for her to handle, and yet I want to try to remember stuff but its a flaw that I almost have no control over, any girls on here if you had a boyfriend that had some flaw such as forgetfullness would you be able to overlook this one flaw because I feel if any flaw can be overlooked no matter how bad it is then the other person truly has love for you, or can a problem be way to much of a problem to handle?

Answer 1

If that's the way you are she can either accept it or not.
You cant make her like that "flaw" in you and you cant change her mind.

You could try and change but you and I both know that will never happen for long.
Soon you will begin to forget things, she will get annoyed and then you will resent her for not accepting you for who you are.

Better to be thankful she spoke up now, so you know where you stand in the relationship.

Answer 2

My ex (and really good friend) always used to say that someone is perfect when all of their good points totally outweigh their flaws. You're absolutely right, flaws are just little things and if someone loves you, they'll overlook them. I can totally relate to the forgetfulness, it's something I say upfront before even going on a first date with someone. "Just so you know, I forget everything, all the time." They either take it with a smile or they move on. If it makes you feel any better, I read that people with high IQs have a very hard time with mental organization (remembering things our minds categorize as mundane or unimportant) whether or not our emotions deem them important. Anyway, good luck with this. What you really need is to find a girl who LOVES to be your personal PDA and giggles when you have no idea what you just did with the keys you had in your hand two seconds ago or the remote you were just about to use! :)

Answer 3

Well you are correct up to an extent. But you see somethings need to be accepted, some needs to be corrected. I had a friend who was slim and when she was in a relationship, she started to put on weight and her bf kept asking her to exercise and lose the weight off otherwise she wont look good. Isn't he supposed to accept her the way she is, but still he made her go on a diet to lose the extra pounds off. My gf will always claim he loves her truly even though he addresses her as fat. So I learnt from her that even though he loves her very much he has an expectation over her as well. So in your case perhaps you can try to correct your forgetfulness by writing down whatever you have to do such that you dun forget a thing. Your gf could be in love you truly but she just tells you about this forgetfulness issue. Its good you do something about it at the early stage rather than letting it spoil ure relationship.

Answer 4

It depends what the guy is forgeting about ie (oops, I forgot about you as my d@ck was moving in and out of her and you accide ntly walk in on us because I forgot to lock the door.) It also can be trying to have to remember things for two such as birthdays and anniversaries and such.

Love is a two way street and sometimes a man or woman has to rise above the flaw they have every now and again to make the other person feel center stage.

Answer 5

man...you guys are found of being forgetfull...but thats not new in a girl/lady/woman's world anymore...your GF should learn to see pass your flaw and love the man behide the flaw...you don't know how much my BF forgets things,he forgets everything that sometimes i could just squeez the life out of him but then i love him too much to let such silly things get in the way...you know what im saying,heres a quick reminder get her/do sumthing for her this Val'tin that she will NEVER FORGET...!!!

Answer 6

First off, it's the one's you love that can hurt you the most. So when this lady says she can't handle your forgetfulness, it's because it's frustrating her to the point of pain...because she does love you. If she didn't care, your problem wouldn't bother her.

To her, it has to seem like you're not listening when she's talking to you, and that can be infuriating. As to you not being to help it, that's not exactly true. You have to power to write things down. If you know you are forgetful, and you know it bothers her, shouldn't YOU show YOU love her by taking some extra steps? Trust me, she will appreciate the effort.

Answer 7

I'm so glad I read your question because I was in a serious relationship with a guy who did the same thing. He was pretty much a forgetful person, a flaw I guess, and couldn't remember crap. The thing that made it not bother me was 1) i knew he wasn't lying and just saying he forgot and 2) if he knew it was a situation with me that seemed important to me he would tell me to please remind him. That sweet gesture made me forget how forgetful he was. Try it!! ;)

Answer 8

Well...... I too have short-term memory and tend to forget a lot of things. My boyfriend that I've been with for a while now already knows this. I say I'm sorry sometimes and he says that's okay. That's just who I am. I really do try and sometimes I still forget.

Maybe your girlfriend is just getting really frustrated. Tell her that you are willing to try harder... but if you still tend to forget, tell her you're sorry. I think things will be a little different. Don't worry.

Answer 9

It's too bad for her - you seem like a very genuine guy who only wants to do good. She should look past your forgetfullness and realize that you've got a problem, and that you're not doing it on purpose. If she can't accept it, get another girlfriend who will understand and help you with your problem.

Answer 10

ok...Yes, to a point someone can over look something like the flaw of forgetfullness.....But to her it might seem like you are not making an effort in trying to remember and it becomes an excuse....I disagree that there is nothing you can do about it....Write things down, and say them out loud, and this way it gets into your brain in 3 differnt ways...You can work on it.