Even if those numbers are skewed, it can't be argued that a hell of a lot of them are. I don't get it. What with internet dating, singles ads and love connections advertised everywhere, it's obvious that people of both genders are looking for love, companionship, commitment. So why the staggering divorce rate? Why is there almost a guarantee that a new relationship will fail, backed by the fact that so many that are veteran are doomed and falling apart?
I am beginning to think that people want "new" more than stable. Just a thought, as I can't assign any other explanation to the situation.
2007-01-30 13:47:33 · 11 answers · asked by 123 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To confirm, there is nothing wrong with being single. I am an attractive divorced intelligent single woman that lives alone. And for now, there is everything right about it. I was just curious because so many people are looking for a relationship, which conflicts with the breakup rate. Thanks for your comments!
2007-01-30 13:59:59 · update #1
Too many bored folks out there. Too many guys feel that when they marry, they no longer have to romance her. All he wants to hear when he gets home is "Dinners ready & Your skivvies are clean"
2007-01-30 13:53:03 · answer #1 · answered by Nort 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are two in a relationship.
Love is a two way street.
Love is an action verb. It requires you to do something.
Marriage requires sacrifice of your own will for the benefit of one new will.
Problems nowadays:
Selfishness prevails. If I am not satisfied, hit the highway until MY satisfactions are met FIRST.
Divorce is too easy. Cohabitiation now rules young men and women as commitment only goes so far. If it doesn't work, oh well, time to move on to another.
Marriage was successful in the 1940's and before because the need of the other. Most of those MADE IT WORK. Their ideals were for their partner. With divorces @ 50% for the past few years, this tells nothing has changed. Feminism has taken over the values of a mother and wife, daycares now wean your children. The foundation of marriage and family has changed to the point where it has no chance to survive.
2007-01-30 14:06:16 · answer #2 · answered by n9wff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just an opinion, I believe too many women believe in the 'happily ever after' fairy tail that they are told about as children. They'll meet the perfect man and have the pefect wedding followed by the perfect marriage.
Sadly, these perfections rarely exist. So women continue to look and would prefer to stay single rather than settle.
I've heard a statistic that 80% of women are interested only in about 20% of men. In the past, I think women would compete for that 20%, but give up if they didn't get one of those guys. Today, women feel more empowered to hold out for something better and it's not always right around the corner.
And just for the record, there is nothing wrong with being single - if that's what you want.
2007-01-30 13:55:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was just having this conversation with some coworkers. Well the thing is, in the past women had no choice but to be married. Back when women didn't have careers, marriage was for survival. So they were more willing to stay in bad marriages. They had no choice, really.
Now women don't "need" men. A woman only stays with a man because she wants to, not because she has to. They can take care of themselves and are more independent. There are a lot of lame guys out there, unfortunately. The few good ones are usually taken early and held on to by the lucky woman who got him.
Personally, I'm a 30 year old woman with a career, and at this point I choose to be single. I have male friends, I date, but if I'm not blown away by a guy, I don't stay with it. I have had several long r/ships that could have led to marriage, but I didn't feel that making that commitment was worth it in the long run. The relationships just weren't all that great. If I found a guy that blew me away, I would want to marry him. But all the guys I've been in relationships with had sonething wrong with them that was ultimately a deal breaker.
Don't assume that just because a woman is single, it's because something is wrong with her. Usually it's just that she hasn't found a man that she has felt was worth it.
2007-01-30 13:57:36 · answer #4 · answered by bellyyo62 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it just to many people are rushing into things instead of putting more thought into things that explains the divorce rate and now for the single female thing maybe women want more in men and know that they no longer have to settle for any old BS.
2007-01-30 13:55:19 · answer #5 · answered by calmlikeatimebomb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as far as I'm concerned....been there done that
it's a learning point, a starting point
specially if you're 25 and over
that way you get to learn about yourself alot better, make your own decisions, you're your own boss 'cause where you pay bills, you rule.
I lived alone since I was 31, for 7 years and had my daughter at 35....I've never been so happy and satisfied with myself and able to love myself and my child. it's a great experience in life.
now I am ready for marriage, David is waiting for us.
2007-01-30 13:57:31 · answer #6 · answered by alizelatina41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure, I'm still single. I can't find a guy who actually wants a relationship, most just want sex.. :(
and all the men I run into think cheating and being promiscious is a good thing because it makes them "gangsta"
its sad, really...
2007-01-30 13:53:34 · answer #7 · answered by Rae-Rae Nikkoles <3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for some sad reason women are attracted only to cute guys who dont care because they can get any girl they want. and those guys usually want her as "her right now" rather than "her for life". and girls pine over them and ignore the nice guys who want a long relationship.
2007-01-30 14:04:18 · answer #8 · answered by evil Hesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they are happy living alone. Being single has its perks and there is nothing wrong with it.
2007-01-30 13:51:41 · answer #9 · answered by Shelley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people propose after 1 month thinking they are in love
the women are livin single because they all go often go for the bad guy who steals her money instead of the good guy
they bring it onto themselves
2007-01-30 13:52:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋