Lets say that you(males) were adopted at 6 months, and you have always known it. You are 39 years old, and its 1998. You go to your Uncle and Aunt's house to visit, and in front of my Adoptive dad(who knows about your real Parents) and your sister, your Aunt mentions a brother that you knew nothing about, thinking that you had known. How would you feel to learn about this brother? Would you feel as I do?
I have felt a little hurt since 1998. Now, to this day, I wonder who (Ricky) is, where he could be. Is this a normal reaction? Sincere honest answers, please.
2007-01-30 13:41:37 · 18 answers · asked by jeraboam2004 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes it's normal !
at your age if you are feeling this way it wouldn't hurt to talk to your aunt and just ask her for more information on Ricky.
she would probably give you what you need.
It's ok to talk about your birth parents too.
2007-01-30 13:51:53 · answer #1 · answered by Randy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel hurt and betrayed...that is normal. Have you talked to your adoptive parents about this or even searched for your birth parents....I know that I would...I do not know why this brother was kept from you knowledge, maybe to protect you, or maybe they did not want you to go searching. The best thing is to talk about this.
I do not know if this helped. But I kind of can relate in a different way.....I have 2 cousins that are adopted, now grown, and just over a year ago, I gave a child up for adoption...it was the hardest thing that I had to do...but it was for the best...and it was an open adoption....
I wish you the best in your search for answers.
2007-01-30 13:49:32 · answer #2 · answered by Mechelle C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset that my parents told me from the beginning that I was adopted but never told me about a sibling. It is completely natural for you to wonder about your brother. My father had two girls not long after I was born, I've always known but their mom wouldn't allow them to talk to me because her new husband had adopted them. I had to wait until they turned 18 and now we talk all the time. I always wondered about them, and cried when I finally found them. It's a very emotional thing for anyone to go through, have you tried finding Ricky? When I found my sisters I found out that they were looking for me too. If you do find him, chances are if he knows about you he has felt what your feeling now. Try talking to your parents, maybe they have a good reason for not telling you about Ricky, maybe they were afraid that you would be more likely to look for your birth family if you knew about him. I know the first thing you want to do is be upset with your parents for not telling you, but I'm sure it's because they love you and were afraid to lose you. Stay strong, you are not alone.
2007-01-30 14:48:55 · answer #3 · answered by lil_momma_of_two 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is a normal reaction. Whenever you are an adopted child and knew nothing about your old family, it would hurt a lot and would never go away. I hope you finally get to meet him after all this time. Good luck.
2007-01-30 13:47:29 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... i am not a guy but i am adopted of course you felt a little hurt to find out that you have a brother after all those years have you ever met your birth parents? i think i might of but i was to young to remember anything if i were in this position i would feel a little hurt and a little excited to find out that i (would or have) a little sister or brother that i would be very kean to meet someday and if i met my little sister or brother then i could (re)meet my birth mom and find out more about myself
2007-01-30 13:52:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start searching for Ricky. Answer to your questions lie in meeting him. Your parents screwed up by not telling you he existed and you have a right to be hurt. For all you know Ricky has been known about you and trying to find you for a long time.
2007-01-30 13:46:24 · answer #6 · answered by tiki/more 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first reaction: You haven't done anything about this yet? Why not?
Yeah, I'd be wondering everything you're wondering. I'd want to find out more. I think it's natural. If you haven't done anything about this yet--if you haven't even asked your parents/aunt/anyone else who appears to know about Ricky anything about him...well...why not (again)? I guess that's the part I don't understand.
I don't know that I have anything more to contribute without knowing this.
2007-01-30 13:47:17 · answer #7 · answered by katbyrd41 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel for you real bad if i were you i would of found out who this brother of mine is back in 1998 i wouldn't of waited so long i think that you should go and find your biological family why not what harm could it do? ask your family were these people are but dont take defense to it be calm just explain to them that you need to know for yourself and that this has nothin to do with them.
2007-01-30 13:48:11 · answer #8 · answered by sweetsss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's normal! You should meet him and your real parents! U have a right to see them! You should ask your parents about him and ur biological parents! Well I hope You get too meet your family! Good Luck!!!!
sincerely, Holly
2007-01-30 13:49:34 · answer #9 · answered by holly_trishner 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wondering about your birth parents and siblings is normal for adopted children/adults. If you are really interested, you could follow up and see if you could find him. There are resources for adopted children seeking out relatives.
2007-01-30 13:45:28 · answer #10 · answered by Shelley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋