my bf mark cheated on her and left her for an old gf 6yrs ago.this happened way befor i even met mark.i have been dating mark for 4 yrs and plan on getting married next yr.she consently talks poorly of me to my future in-laws,bf and anyone who listens.she has told my bf she does not want me to be involved with thier 8yr old child as i'm not his family.i know she still has feelings for my bf but why can't she get over it?he cheated on her why would she want him back?i told him right off the bat cheat on me and your gone.
2007-01-30 13:26:55 · 14 answers · asked by joyce8suhjry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds to me like she still may love him...but a word to the wise...once a cheater, always a cheater...No onw ever likes to hear that but its true
2007-01-30 13:30:52 · answer #1 · answered by Tanya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's kind of natural for her not to like you, especially if she does have feelings for your bf. If she can't get over him yet, then she can't. Nothing anyone can say or do will move her beyond it. Don't let it bother you. You're with him, not her. If she doesn't want you around the child, then you should respect that.
And, just a word of advice to keep in mind... If he cheated on her, he's capable of cheating on you. That doesn't mean he will, but it's not out of the question. Usually someone who is unfaithful will repeat this behavior. So just keep it in mind.
2007-01-30 13:33:16 · answer #2 · answered by true blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know why she's so bitter towards you but I have the same problem. However my husband was never married to her and he never cheated on her. She cheated on him time and time again but because he was attached to her son which was concieved during one of her little romps outside of their off and on again 14 yr relationship he kept letting her come back. If I answer the phone in my own home she starts yelling at me for no reason, if I answer the phone and my husband isnt here she yells at me for not letting her talk to him {they have a 6yr old together} then she will call my inlaws who she hates and yell at them claiming I am not allowing her to talk to my husband when he is NOT here!. Women are stupid,you know whats, and I think she is jealous that he married me and not her
2007-01-30 13:34:04 · answer #3 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU are the only one who seems to think she wants him back. Could it be that YOU are the one who has the problem? You are involved with a man who comes with baggage, you do not get to pick and chose the way his ex-wife acts and basically his wife is correct when she says you are not her child's family. And you should have nothing to do with raising that child unless you and the boyfriend get married. At this point in your relationship you are nothing to that child. If you can't deal with the fact that he had a life before you came along maybe you shouldn't be in thei relationship. As for the badmouthing, if you didn't make it a problem it wouldn't be. Obviously you have allowed what she says to get to you . I suggest you learn to tolerate her if you plan on marrying your boyfriend because as lon as his child is alive he is going to have a tie to her and she doesn't HAVE to be nice to you. That's just the way it goes when you get involve with a man who was married/in a relationship that produced a child/children before you came along.
2007-01-30 13:37:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probable hates you for the comparable reason my ex's new spouse hates me. She is Jealous! no longer because of the fact of who you're yet what she wanted together with her ex and did no longer have. Mine and that i've got 2 kiddos and that's stressful for her to even think of that he develop into married until now her. ultimate element i will say is basically go away her on my own, it fades and it passes altogether in case you in basic terms stay point headed. good success!
2016-11-01 22:32:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im suprised you are even asking this question, Since time started the problem you describe has been around, and its a completely natural reaction. Can I suggest you try imagining the two of you swap places and include you having her reactions and decisions. Then see if you can imagine how she might feel....If you give it enough time I think you will find you will be able to answer this question yourself. Remember you have to imagine completely swapping roles with her including she having him now.
2007-01-30 13:33:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People tend to never forgive one who makes them feel pain. Any type of pain, and they search for someone to take it all off on them. If your bf's exwife loved him, and he cheated her, she will always keep rage against anything that concerns him, like his actual gf [you]. She still sees herself beside him, she's probablly still in love with him, or somethng, so she projects herself within you, so there are two main feelings: the one of being the martir, in which she was cheated, and can't afford her image to take it one more time. And the one in which she was happy with him, and she has memories with him, so she will never let them go, and therefore she doesn't want someone to take over her place. So she tries to get you off the map.
Hope it's useful.
2007-01-30 13:35:18 · answer #7 · answered by Charly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with once a cheater always a cheater cause he did it once. I think she might be hurt mostly yet a bit jealous since you have him now! Some people may feel like you will be talking her down to their child so she might not want that to happen.
2007-01-30 13:34:16 · answer #8 · answered by turbo_1121 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's recap. He cheated on his wife. He left the women he cheated on with and took up with you. You see a pattern emerging? I do not blame the ex-wife from shielding her son from his father's philandering ways. If she does not want you to get involved with her son, don't. He as a mother and a father, let them raise him.
2007-01-30 13:36:17 · answer #9 · answered by Ti 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is still hurting from what he did to her. You'll understand how she feels next year when he cheats on you.
2007-01-30 13:31:10 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋