Is she being abused?

Question

My friend is being abused by her mother and she won't tell anyone. She told me that when her mother is drunk she beats her and when she comes to school with bruises. She makes up excuses. I hate whenever that new song runaway love comes on and i am with her because it goes like this: he yells and abuses leaves her with some bruises teachers ask questuiion shes makin up excuses. She always cries on my shoulder. Even the kids at school call her brittany bruises. wat should i do

Answer 1

hard to say, it's an adult decision. you could tell your principal, which can contact the right places for you. she might have to be prepared to live with someone else while the mother faces charges. something like this, with the abuse, could scar her for life, so something should be done. no one should be afraid of coming home.

maybe you should talk to your parents, like if something were to happen, could she stay at your house...

Answer 2

First off by law if you suspect someone is being abused you must report it. You do not have to give your name or any personal information. Call social services tell them what you just said here about her mother drinking and beating her they have to by law investigate every child abuse/neglect case that is reported. You can also tell your school counselor and she can contact the proper authorities. The person who suspects but does not report is just as guilty as the abuser because in a round about way they are allowing it to continue. What if something happened to your friend how could you live with yourself knowing one phone call could have prevented it? Find the strength she does not have and call. Your friend just has to be honest with the person sent to the home to investigate otherwise the pattern wont stop

Answer 3

Go to Social Services and get a business card from a case worker
dealing with child abuse and give it to your friend. Give her a week
to call the case worker for help and if she doesn't then you call the
case worker. Even a week can be too long when violence is
involved. Do you want your friend alive by this time next year?
If you value her then do something. She may get beaten even worse
if her abuser finds out she's told so tread carefully. It's unloving to
do nothing.

Answer 4

Girl, I know how u feel. This girl who was kinda my friend at school was raped by her dad and she wouldn't tell anyone but I assumed something was wrong so I kept askin her and she kept ingoring me and makin up excuses. I denfineally knew something was wrong by lookin at her eyes. She finally gave in.

I know you should tell her you know whats going on with her and talk to her and earn her trust otherwise, she's just gonna turn away from u. Shes ur friend, so talk to her after school or something. Tell her to go to a couselor cuz she cant keep letting her mom beatin her like that and the couselor will proably help her out a lot and contact someone who will help. She cant stay with her mom anymore, so shes gonna have to stay with another family memeber or friend, like u.

Answer 5

If your friend has told you she is being physically abused, you have a legal obligation to report it to Children's Services. I don't know what country you are from but in Canada it is the Children's Aid Society that you should make the call to. If it's another country, find out what organization is similar. Another alternative is to talk to the guidance counsellor or Principal at your school. It sounds like your friend is reaching out by telling you and she needs to be believed and helped.

Answer 6

I think you should give her a dose of tough love yourself, Tell her if she wants help you are there for her. And if she says stay out of it . let her know she chooses to live that way, you dont want to hear about it, Ive seen friends get involved with other friends family problems and the out come was not good, the friendship ended. Victims of family abuse get accustomed to making excuses for their abusers , like only when mother is drunk? im sure it goes deeper. The abuse she endures is ongoing She has to come to the conclusion only She can do something about it. and if you feel you have to say something about it drop hints around Mother like She sure gets alot of bruises. how does she get so many? let the mom know you know without saying it.

Answer 7

If your friend is under-aged, go to a teacher, a school counsel or call the child abuse hot line. If she is an adult go to social services they can get her set up in a safe house. Don't wait. GET HER HELP NOW.

Answer 8

If I were in the same situation that you are in, I'd find an adult at the school that I could trust and ask them to look into it. If you are afraid that your friend would find out that it was you let someone know anonymously. Even if your friend finds out that it was you, you would be doing the right thing. You could just be saving her life.

Answer 9

Is she under 18? Call the police anonymously and give them a tip they will have to have child services check it out. But keep it a secret if you want to keep your friend because people in those kind of relationships are extremely loyal to the one that is abusing them.

Answer 10

If you are still in school and your friend is under 18 you should report it to your school counsler. If they talk to her and they determine that there is something that needs to be investgated they are bound by law to turn it in to the proper people. It will the pressure off of you and it should help your friend, but be prepared for her to be mad at you for a little while.