I'm a good girl, so why do I have problems with my parents anyway?

Question

I'm 15, wise. good student, don't get in trouble. My parents are good too. Yet, we have problems, sometimes we fight and each other. For 4 months I was kinda resentful and we had an icy relationship. We made up last week, and if they had explained their reasons before I wouldn't have been so resentful. Why all this mess, they're adults.

Answer 1

You sound just like me at 15. I was into following the rules and doing well in school and my parents were strict but not overly so. We still had fights from time to time and I've come to realize its a natural part of growing up.

You're both trying to find a balance. You're trying to get ready to be an adult and testing making your own decisions. You need to experiment with independence a bit and sometimes that will bring you into conflict with your parents. Also, your brain is changing and growing, too, and you're working out new ways of seeing the world.

Coming from the other end now, I'm dealing with my 12 year old DD now. She's like us, basically a good kid and doing well but we're still having fights. Remember your parents are trying to keep you safe while still letting you grow up. They want you to make some decisions on your own but it's hard when you think that a decision isn't the best one. They have years of experience in life and want to pass that on to you so you don't have to learn everything first hand. Sometimes it's hard to find a balance between passing information on and interfering.

Answer 2

This is my opinion as an adult who raised a very wonderful nephew that just turned 17 today. Sometimes we as parents or parental figures have to do things that children do not like. You as a child will try to find your freedom before we are ready to let you fly. With my nephew I never felt the need to explain myself after all I am the adult he is the child I don't need to explain myself to him. I'm sure there were times he hated me for things I wouldn't let him do, or things I made him do and there were times he'd tell me he hated me.But I am still the person he calls anytime of day just to talk or if he needs someone to talk to or just to complain. And even though he no longer lives with me I still get onto him and still feel no need to explain myself or my decisions to him. And maybe that's the feelings your parents have, they are the adult and don't need to nor do they owe you an explanation to anything they say or do. Its not always right, but when you grow up and have kids, you'll do the same. They are paren'ting you they arent your friends

Answer 3

i'm 18 and i have the same problem with my dad we fight all the time, most of the time i resent having him as a father and its wrong but its just the relationship we have and a lot of kids have this realtionship with parents

Answer 4

dear, u must be honest with them and i feel this situation will get better. tell them u dont understand about them not explaining thier reason for the fight u all had. also pray . still keep up the good work at school. and i'm sure everything will be allright for the whole family.

Answer 5

I just made up with my girlfriend that I love soo much. I've decided to humble myself with her. She is worth the world to me, but we butted heads because we are both strong willed people. I can still make my point, have an opinion without loosing focus on loving her and being happy. So humble yourself when dealing with people that you love.

Answer 6

I think its because its what society teaches us that parents and teens shouldn't get along just keep the lines of communication open between you in your parents and be honest with them!

Answer 7

I bet you parents just want you to suck their genatils

Answer 8

i have same problem with my parents too. message me if u want...

Answer 9

i have the same exact problem