i really love my boyfriend, but lately i've been "noticing" this other guy, if u know what i mean!! well, this guy used 2 like one of my close friends, but now i think he likes me...&& its really bad b/c i cant stop flirting with him, even when my real man is around!! help me!!
2007-01-30 12:58:30 · 15 answers · asked by Lady Sunshine 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you have been noticing and flirting with this other guy, maybe you need to re-evaluate how much you love your boyfriend. Is it true sincere love or is it the love that you are just used to having for him out of habit because you two have been dating for a long period of time? Think about the relationship you have your boyfriend and the relationship that you would have (if you do have) with the other guy. Which one seems more realistic? Which one would more likely last? Which one do you see yourself with? This could just be a passing urge that alot of people get after they have been with someone for a period of time. This new guy is new and fresh and is considered the unknown in your eyes - its exciting. But is it something that would actually want to pursue and dum your bf for?
I dated a guy for four years and in those four years, i got interested in a guy at my school. I mean, REALLY interested. He was all I could think about and he made me feel soo good. I would get all choked up and red and blush and stutter and couldnt stop smiling whenever I ran into him, even with my boyfriend by my side. In fact, I almost broke up with my boyfriend... but, i realized that this guy was 'new' and it would last. I would never have with him what I had with my boyfriend... and Im glad i made that decision.
Figure out if you only like this other guy because hes is 'new meat' and exciting, or if you really like him as a person and an individual and could be someone you would want to share your life with (in the same way that you are now sharing with your boyfriend). Is he worth it?
2007-01-30 13:11:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think hard about which you you want to be with long term. if you really love your boyfriend and things are going good, is it worth it to break up with him to be with this guy? what if this other guy just wants to have a good time, and not a relationship? is that what you really want? in your heart you know whats best and you will realize what the right thing is to do. just be 100% sure. good luck!
2007-01-30 13:06:47 · answer #2 · answered by danielle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you are going through. calm down and relax. i'm sorry, but until you figure out which man you desire, you have to delay your dating life and put it on hold. you probably are hurting both men by doing this and your hurting yourself. tell your boy that you need a brake from dating, just a brake for a short while. durring that time, think about who your happiest with and if you should even be rushing with dating. maybe you should wait another year until you can handle this. i'm so sorry that you have to go through this kind of confusion and you have my support and luck. ^_____^
2007-01-30 13:04:39 · answer #3 · answered by angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
control yourself. if you love your boyfriend, but only "like" this other guy, what do you think you should do? stop flirting. you are using it as an excuse. what is wrong with your current relationship that you need attention from someone else?
2007-01-30 13:03:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to call it quits with your present boyfriend. Sooner or later you're going to move on and it's not fair to keep him hanging. Tell him you love him but you're not in love with him and you're breaking up with him because of your feeling about others. Spare him the details about others.
2007-01-30 13:04:41 · answer #5 · answered by notadeadbeat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop flirting or break up with your BF, somone is going to get hurt.
2007-01-30 13:01:58 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who do you like better?If I were you I'd pertend not to notice the "other guy"and walk away.If that doesn't help stand up to the "other guy" and say stop it, it's over.Or you can say that to your "real man".I't your choice.
2007-01-30 13:05:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, you need to get out of that relationship ASAP. What you are doing is not right to your boyfriend. You are going to hurt him or are already hurting him.
2007-01-30 13:02:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should get your thoughts and feelings in place... and think about what you really want right now? who do you really like? is he the proper one?.... just be true to yourself and whatever you decide tell the two guys...
2007-01-30 13:03:25 · answer #9 · answered by Queen Alecita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh crap that sux
K lets see.....well how about this when you see this guy i dono like picture him in a stupid way or something or picture your bf doing something hot so that you'll be more focased on some good stuff.
2007-01-30 13:02:22 · answer #10 · answered by :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋