What CAN a Christian do exactly? Is kissing, hugging ok? like is finding a girl's body attractive sinful? or getting turned on and such. Is making out a sin? Serious question. Christian answers only.
2007-01-30 12:52:24 · 20 answers · asked by CK 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
just want to add a little something. No sex until marriage I know that. What can you do other than that?
2007-01-30 13:17:32 · update #1
About the whole Christian answers only: I want answers strictly Christian, not opinions. If I wanted opinions I would have left it open for anyone to answer. I was hoping to filter out answers on how oh it's ok to have sex as long as you protect yourself. I obviously know that's wrong from a Christian perspective. I just want Christian answers if that's alright with you guys.
2007-01-30 13:24:11 · update #2
Here is what Jesus said:
"You have heard that it was said, "You shall not commit adultery';
but I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. Matthew 5:27-28
In this passage Jesus goes on to say that you should take drastic measures to stay away from temptation that would make you stumble.
In this next verse notice the phrase "this is the will of God"
I Thessalonians 4:3-5b
"For this is the will of God, your sanctification, that is that you abstain from sexual immoratlity; that each of you know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor not in lustful passion..."
and further in this passage
"For he who rejects this is not rejecting man but the God who gives His Holy Spirit to you." 1 Thess. 4:8
Once a person is saved, the Holy Spirit dwells with them. You need to know the Word of God, so that the Holy Spirit can bring to your rememberance verses to help you with temptation.
In 1 Corinthians 6:18-20
"Flee immorality. Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but the immoral man sins against his own body.
Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God and that you are not your own?
For you have been bought with a price;
therefore glorify God in your body."
OK with all of this in mind ask yourself;
* Can I kiss my girl and hug my girlfriend without lust? Can I make out without lust?
*If I make out with my girl friend am I glorifying God with my body?
I am of the opinion that dating should be done in groups and touching of any kind should be reserved for your wife or wife to be.
If the you don't know for sure that the person you are dating will be the one you want to marry, keep your hands, lips etc.. off of her, she will some day be another man's wife. And likewise the one you will marry someday should pay you that respect as well.
This is the ideal situation, if someone doesn't stick to these standards they aren't ruined forever, it is just a good guideline for dating.
God has called us to be sanctified. That means to be set apart. We are in the world but not of it. We are daily being bombarded with immoral ideas, images etc... & when "every one else is doing it" whether it be making out or having sex, it is not easy to be the one who says no, I am waiting for marriage. But the wait is well worth it.
I hope this helps.
2007-01-30 13:50:47 · answer #1 · answered by redeemed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey! A Christian is going to have all the temptations that anyman or woman would have, but we are not to do what a worldly person would do. There is nothing wrong with kissing or hugging, if you can handle it. What I mean by that is...Will you be able to do such a thing and not take it too far or to the point to commit fornication which is sex outside of marriage. Will you be able to control your emotions and or temptations from going too far. Some would say, "Don't put yourself in that situation in the first place." and that is probably a good thing, but I don't think it is realistic.
Another aspect would be to see if something like this would pull you away from a relationship with God. Will you now start spending more time thinking of the act of kissing a certain person or worse....having sex with that person more than you think of God. The kissing or hugging could create an idol worship of the person you like if you cannot control your emotions.
Ultimately, if you can....have fun, But make sure God is first in your life and relationship. Pray about it with our mate. Don't have actuall sex until you are married. God gave us these gifts to enjoy, so enjoy them responsibly.
Matt
2007-01-30 21:08:54 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do something you like such as: movies, play or watch sports, music, biking, sight seeing, amusement parks, nature trails/trips, zoo, museums. Kissing, hugging is OK. Finding the other person attractive is normal too. There is a right and a wrong way to do things. Conduct your dating in the right way. Start with respect. Respect for your date, respect for your and your dates parents, Respect for yourself. Respect for and to God. Don't do things you might regret later.
2007-01-30 21:08:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen, I'm a Christian and I was out on a date recently with this beautiful Christian girl. We went to the movies, had dinner, laughed, kissed, hugged, and just had a wonderful time. Then I took her home and she spent the night. It was wonderful!
Oh, this girl is also my wife, and we have as much ,if not more fun, than unsaved couples. We do everything BUT commit sin.
2007-01-30 21:03:10 · answer #4 · answered by Heaven's Messenger 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you are supposed to do anything that gets you sexually aroused, because this leads to temptation. So kissing might be off limits for some, but not others.
I think that there is a difference between finding someone attractive, and actually letting your lustful imagination run unchecked while you "check her out". We are supposed to be trying to think pure thoughts, acording to Paul. Besides, if you are lusting, then you are "oogling" her, whether you know it or not, and women see it on your face and get offended.
You really should be asking your pastor this, instead of the nuts here on Y!A.
2007-01-30 21:00:48 · answer #5 · answered by Randy G 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Kissing and hugging are fine, the line is drawn at sex before marriage, but it would be wise to avoid any situations that might make it tempting to cross the line. Getting turned on is natural, as is finding someone attractive, however you should not confuse this with lusting after someone.
hope this helps
2007-01-30 21:06:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Christians should not date, they should court.
The difference is, dating is a fling, courting is serious and will lead to marriage which dignify Jehovah God.
So unless you are old enough and mature enough to court someone, you should refrain until so and therefore remain chaste in the sight of God and Man.
2007-01-30 21:00:59 · answer #7 · answered by Here I Am 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate this "Christians only" filter everybody keeps putting on their posts. This is a public forum and anybody can post if they feel. You don't HAVE to be religious or christian to have an opinion or BE a person. Here, I'll try to put this into perspective for you. It's perfectly naturally to be attracted to people and think "impure" thoughts. Had god not wanted this to happen, he would not have gave us genitals, sex hormones, or attractiveness. I'm sorry my friend but there is no way to get past this "sin" and the only way to solve this is to rejustify your thinking about whats is "sinful"
2007-01-30 21:02:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
I think the most important thing is something that most christians overlook. and it is simple prayer. Let god lead you to that special one. I think that it is not wise to do anything that might lead to something you might regret or make less special in the future. Just pray about it and read the word.
2007-01-30 20:57:40 · answer #9 · answered by cool_jj334 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
no sex before marriage. Kissing , hugging ,etc. is okay as long as it doesn't lead to sexual desire,stimulation. It is normal to find a girl attractive, but we should be more attractive to the person, rather than the "body".
2007-01-30 20:56:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋