My daughter's friend smokes cigarettes. I don't allow my children to smoke but her friend's parents do.

Question

What should I do? I told her friend when she was at my house sleeping over that Caroline, my daughter, is not allowed to smoke and she wasn't either while she was at my house. I think her parents are so irrresponsible for encouraging such behavior. The worst thing is that Caroline smelt like cigarttes when she came home from school. What do I do? I think she is smoking and she denies it. I am at my wit's end.

Answer 1

Keep your rules, and if your daughter is smoking, she will have to suffer the consequences. She will realize at some point that she lied, etc. You did not say how young she is, but keeping that boundary of no smoking in the house means a lot, even if you can't see that now. Don't nag; just set the example, don't change your rules, and eventually truth will come out.
My son knew the drinking rule "No beer beyond the curb." I knew I couldn't follow him around, or smell his breath every time he came home, but he did know that he could trust me to do the best I could for him. He had to learn to make choices, and when they were wrong, had to suffer the consequences.
How difficult it is to raise children, but as the Bible says. Train up a child and they will come back to their senses eventually (huge paraphrasing!!). Hang in there..she needs your concern, love and caring.

Answer 2

look i'm 16 and alot of my friends smokme but i don't and my mom knows my friends smoke and she trusts me, just b/c her friends do doesn't mean she does and she could smell like smoke b/c shes hanging around her friends while they smoke. and yea it is kind of irresponsible parenting, but the parents prolly s,moke to and what r they gonna do deny the kid being able to smoke whe there setting such a good example? but just don't accuse her when u truely don't kno if she is

Answer 3

ask her if she is smoking
you should show her what smoking does to people
if she doesnt listen, then forget it . let her learn on her own.
maybe her friend is smoking and she is just around her too much

goodluck

Answer 4

Dont allow her to hang with that girl cause before long she will start smoking.Put your foot down.