My fiance has been contacting an ex gf that I don't like. I found out his morning that he has been sending her mssgs through he 'blog', he knows I don't like her and he told me he wasn't contacting her anymore and now I find this...I rang him up and he assures me that they are only friends, but why did he send her friendly mssgs behind my back? He knew it would upset me so why did he do this?
2007-01-30 12:45:37 · 14 answers · asked by Linda A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's looking to hook up with her
2007-01-30 12:48:49 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deciding on the person you will marry is one of the most important decisions you will make in your life. It can spell the difference between living a life of joy and peace or a life of pain and depression. This time, when you are still engaged, is often one of the most joyful and romantic times in a couple's life. If, then, you already don't trust him at this time, you should think very seriously about how you will feel if you've been married to him for years, not as young and attractive as you are now, busy with children and so many other concerns. Will you trust that he will be faithful to you then? If not, it is much better to face the pain of breaking up now and to find someone else. It is even better to be single than to be married but miserable.
2007-01-30 13:22:14 · answer #2 · answered by inmyopinion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you and him need to take some time apart with no contact for a month or two. to think about what we want. not to see any one Else,that would only defeat the purpose for making decisions on what you need and him. maybe he will realize he wants to be with you. if not you saved time getting married and possible divorce. tell him he needs to tell you things even if you dont like it. so you can work some thing out.you have to try to handle things that up set you thats why guys dont say to much. . which is not always easy.its taken me a long time, im still working at it.most people dont know how to always be honest, humans react, we need to learn how to work on stuff. good luck. it will be fine what ever your decision.also tell him its part of a real relationship to talk.
2007-01-30 13:02:21 · answer #3 · answered by mouse ears 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you have a trust issue. I would rethink the marriage thing. Maybe they really are friends. I am in contact with my ex boyfriends and my current fiance doesn't seem to mind. Why? Because we wholeheartedly trust one another and there's a reason why they call them ex's...........it's because you don't want 'em anymore!
Your fiance already knows your feelings on the issue. If he doesn't want to respect them, that's another story and something you will have to work out.
2007-01-30 12:51:46 · answer #4 · answered by oklahoma_whistle_britches 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, if this guy is your fiance - he shouldn't put any other girl before you!! If this guy is already lying and hiding things from you - you really need to reconsider your "marriage" options. There really are no answers to why men or women hide stuff that could be potentially harmful to their loved ones. My only advise is that you need to keep your communication lines open and make sure to let him know how bad this is hurting you!! Good luck!!
2007-01-30 12:55:47 · answer #5 · answered by Jennie33Ldybg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to him because if he is right and there is nothing to be worried about... why didn't he tell you? Yes, he knows you don't like the idea of him talking to an ex-gf... but if he wanted to do the right thing and make sure this wouldn't affect your relationship...he should have said something... one of the best things a relationship has is trust and communication.... believe me, my bf still has a friendship with his ex and even if i totally dislike the idea, i appreciate that he always tells me what's going on...
2007-01-30 12:53:04 · answer #6 · answered by Queen Alecita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG!!!
WOW that worries me! and hes your fiance too! I really have no idea why he would do that! I would diffinatley tell him this and maybe be like all STOP or we're gunna have issues!!!!
2007-01-30 12:53:31 · answer #7 · answered by :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone is allowed to have their secrets. and not everything will be your business. maybe he knew you would get upset, which you did. if it's on her blog - couldn't you just read the blog. see what it says?
2007-01-30 12:49:48 · answer #8 · answered by mike s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dam girl go with your gut you will be the only one that could answer if he is fooling around or not
2007-01-30 12:51:02 · answer #9 · answered by Sexy Eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fella wants to have his cake AND a slice of the other. Tsk! Tsk! Tsk!
2007-01-30 12:50:33 · answer #10 · answered by JADE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is going to say that he does not hafve feelings for her.
Can you trust him?
Not if he lied to you.
And, whether he has feelings for her or not, he does not respect you enough to be honest and to not talk to his xgf.
It is disrespectful to you and if you stay with him, you can bet it will continue.
Not only will he do it,
but he will sneak and do it.
2007-01-30 12:52:01 · answer #11 · answered by JAN W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋