I am really good friends with a guy who I have slept with. But every time we talk or chat online he tells me how attracted he is to me and tries to get me to play around (he lives abroad). Sometimes he talks about us getting married, but I think he's just joking. I would love for it all to stop and to just be friends, but somehow we just can't keep our friendship platonic.
Advice please! Is he just playing me?
2007-01-30 12:36:58 · 4 answers · asked by Snow White 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him that you don't want to marry him. If your not 100% sure he's joking, let him know. And let him know your serious. If he accepts that, and goes on being your friend without ever flirting or hitting on you, then you're in good shape.
Now, I think everything has the potential for friendship. But do you still want to have casual sex with him as friends? If so, then no, it's not going to be a friendship. Somewhere down the line it will get complicated. Chances are he'll mistake your intentions for casual sex.
It all depends on what you want and how he recieves it. I was on the receiving end once (I wanted to be with someone but they didn't like me back) and now we are great friends, and I can't even think of me and him getting together. At first it might be akward (assuming he has feelings for you that you can't return) but it will slowly get better with time.
2007-01-30 12:48:53 · answer #1 · answered by Namaste 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure about your friend, but I believe that no matter what is said or done, guys and girls being friends always has an element of sex to it.
I think there is always some sexual tension between men and women, even in their friendships. If you think hard about it, I'm sure you will see that the same relationship with one of the same sex would never have the same attraction. It's the tension between you, the sexual element that makes it worth while and a relationship worth having, even when you never intend to act on it. Even if it's just a little flirting it boosts your self esteem and makes you feel attractive.
So, no I think it's never really platonic. It may never get to actual physical sex but the thought is never totally absent.
2007-01-30 12:46:51 · answer #2 · answered by Ande 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he serious about getting married, then he wont mind when you said you want to stop and just be friends, i think abit flirting is normal between friends
2007-01-30 14:29:46 · answer #3 · answered by John 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's playing you. Make new friends.
2007-01-30 12:41:20 · answer #4 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋