my boyfriend says he wants to b with me but still talks and looks at other girls. i keep forgiving him but he keeps doing it.
2007-01-30 12:20:16 · 39 answers · asked by trish_womans_champion619 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey Trish its ur cuz Stacy whats up.Are U talking about ur boy Rey.I know i do see him looking at girls alot.But don't worry i hit him about an hour ago lol.He still has the mark.Oh by the way if he has a red mark tomorrow then u know why.Hey call me yoooo!!!! I love Batista and Rey there awesome.I also love Panic at the disco
2007-01-31 14:25:53 · answer #1 · answered by stacy_diva_girl619 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you really think that being with a partner means that partner can no longer speak to members of the opposite sex, or that their attraction to other people magically dries up?
Doesn't work that way, sorry to say. Actually, I'd say you should be pleased. Here's why: if he never talked to other girls and lost all attraction to other girls, then you'd be with a boring hunk of non-man. What fun is that?
On the other hand, consider this: what does it mean to you if your boyfriend interacts with attractive, intelligent and engaging women all day, and has a strong sexual attraction to women of all shapes and sizes -- but at the end of the day, always comes home to you, because he loves you most of all?
You see where I'm going with this? It's unrealistic to expect a person to magically become a devoted eunnuch who only speaks to men once they start dating you. That doesn't mean they should be hitting on or dating those girls, or saying rude things like "I wish your breasts looked like those!" in your presence -- but be realistic. If you want a man who only has eyes (and words) for you, you're going to have a boring love life indeed.
2007-01-30 12:29:54 · answer #2 · answered by daveowenville 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is life. EVERYONE looks at other people, single, dating, or married. There's no harm in looking. You know you look at other guys, but that doesn't make you a bad girlfriend or person, and the case is the same with guys. There's no harm in window shopping, as long as you don't touch the merchandise.\
And as far as talking with other girls, you've got NOTHING to worry about. I mean, would it be fair for him to question you just for talking to other guys?
It seems like you're insecure about being the only girl in his life, and I know how you feel, my boyfriend is a total flirt. Just remember, if he wanted to be with those other girls, he wouldn't want to be with you. He eems loyal, you just have to trust him a little more :)
Good luck to you two!!!
2007-01-30 12:30:06 · answer #3 · answered by Carolinii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he looking or gawking?
I've been with the same guy for 16 years, AND we started dating when we were 16. At first it would bother me if he looked at other women, but now - heck I'll point out the girl with the big bazooms to him.
Mind you - I trust my husband implicitly! - It sounds to me that there are trust issues. It could just be that the relationship is just really new, and you haven't reached that level of trust yet, and that's ok - it'll come. Or it can be that you have a reason not to trust him - and it that case - move on.
2007-01-30 12:27:41 · answer #4 · answered by crisagi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your flipping out because he "talks and looks" at other girls. Honey please grow up. There are far worse things that could happen in a relationship other than "talking and looking". There is nothing for you to forgive him for. Ya'll aren't married and it is a free country. If you keep him under lock and key he will get tired of this and end the relationship.
2007-01-30 12:24:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He should not be looking at other girls when he is out with you., it is disrespectful. Looking is okay as long as he comes home to you. Tell him that it hurts to see him looking at other girls when you are together and to do it when you are not around. Are you sure he wants to be in a committed relationship? Ask him. If he is looking an talking alot, then I would say he is NOT
2007-01-30 12:26:52 · answer #6 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay to talk and to look, as long as his time, energy, loyalty, and heart are yours. Just as it's okay for you to still talk and size men up to your heart's content. Being in a relationship doesn't mean we eat, breathe, and live just for the significant other.
Now, if there's more to the talking and looking, that's a different matter altogether. Time to take drastic action if the behavior continues. You know what needs to be done, don't you????
2007-01-30 12:25:23 · answer #7 · answered by JADE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not like this but... Why do you think he shouldn't talk to other girls? Or look at other girls?
It's natural for him to want to. Do you not glance at good looking guys occasionally?
Don't think about it too much!
I honestly would be more worried if he didn't do those things!!
Try to be a little more secure in yourself.
2007-01-30 12:26:18 · answer #8 · answered by KarenGus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? realize that young men, especially under 20 are going to keep lookingat other girls no matter how good looking you are! this is just life! and hormones, young lady! if you are not engaged or married, there is litttle you can do about it, except start flirting with other dudes to get him jealous! turnabout is fair play, i say! dandidonna@yahoo.com will be your new boyfriend, how about that? seriously, do not get too upset about it because young men are usually pretty fickle!
2007-01-30 12:27:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really have an answer for you, but I do have a question..why do you keep forgiving him, if he keeps doing what you don't like?
2007-01-30 12:29:00 · answer #10 · answered by ladyinwar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋