She only hits me when I take something away from her or she just basically gets frustrated with me.
2007-01-30 12:11:31 · 16 answers · asked by bling 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
At 15-months, babies do everything in their little bitty cute power to push every last one of your buttons. The important thing is for you to remain calm. The baby will feed off your frustrations or anger and just think it's funny. Not because it is funny, but because she hasn't learned to discern anger from other emotions and she'll just see that she's gotten a rise out of you. What we do with my son is if he hits, we look right in his eyes and say firmly and clearly: No Hit. And then we might ask what he needs. He'll often calm down and point at what he wants or pull us to the spot where he wants us to play. You have to remember your daughter is just now learning to put her actions with results. She can't talk, so it's very frustrating for her. You also may want to try teaching her sign language. We started it with my son at 11 months and it's a miracle. He tells us all kinds of things: milk, more, eat, sleep ... You can start your daughter now and she might decrease some of that frustration. Good luck!
2007-01-30 14:36:40 · answer #1 · answered by Barbara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She does that because she can't verbally express herself yet. She knows she's frustrated and she gets even more frustrated b/c she can't talk to you like she wants to....so she does the next best thing--she acts out. This is VERY normal.
Now---what you need to do, is each time she does this, take her hand, firmly, and hold it in yours, look her in the eye and say, "We don't hit. Hitting hurts." Don't hit her back. It's gonna take a while but the message will get across.
My son started that at about 15 months and he'll be 17 months on Saturday and he doesn't do it anymore. Of course, what I need up doing was one day when he hit me, I scrunched up my face and faked a big ole cry---he started crying and I hugged him and told him not to hit Mommy b/c it hurt. He did it again the next day. I 'cried' again. So did he. I hugged him and told him not to hit and it hasn't happened since.
But don't start off with the crying back at her--start by looking her in the eye and telling her no--if, after a month you don't see any results--then cry.
Good luck and welcome to parenthood!
2007-01-30 12:44:41 · answer #2 · answered by kathylouisehall 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When my daughter hits me I get down to her level, hold both of her arm firmly to her sides and strongly tell her "hitting is not nice, dont do it again." Then the bottom lip sticks out and she starts crying. Dont baby her after telling her not to hit. I also make her say sorry. But at this point my daughter cant say sorry so she says it with a kiss.
2007-01-30 12:18:24 · answer #3 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
When u take something away from her;when she hits u get on her eye level and express to her how bad hitting is and sit her on a time out mat and tell her she has 2 sit for 5mins 4 hitting. Continue 2 do this, be consistent until u get results. Also sit in the room with her.
2007-01-30 12:21:04 · answer #4 · answered by pooh_bear2k2000 1 · 0⤊ 4⤋
different things work for different children. My youngest went through that at about the same age. When he would raise his hand to hit I would grab it put it down at his side and tell him no. It took a couple of times but he finally caught on.
My oldest was a little more stubborn though, I had to smack her hands and it dawned on her she didn't want that to happen and she stopped.
2007-01-30 12:18:50 · answer #5 · answered by Chrissy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Spanking or hitting (or even threatening to do so) only reinforces the violence she's showing you. tell her "no, we don't hit". make a big deal out of the fact that it hurt you. (even if it didn't) with my son, i say "ouchie" when he falls or gets hurt... so if he hits or bites me, i tell him no, then say "ouchie, you hurt mommy". that way he (hopefully) understands. he hasn't bitten me in a long time. (that's what he did when he was frustrated) i hope this helps you. just remember to be consistent... tell her no EVERY time.
2007-01-30 12:24:12 · answer #6 · answered by Emily H 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
oh my gosh- the only person that gave you good advice was rose_4526. Little ones get frustrated, i have a very headstrong boy, and i tell him "we need to talk" and neel down and hold his hands in my hands and just talk to him, tell her you understand that she's mad and it's not ok to hit. (it sounds kinda korny but it seems to work) you have go to try and stay calm and talk nicely to her and tell her you understand- explain the situation to her and then ask her if she understands... thats worked for us so far :) good luck hunny- hang in there :)
2007-01-30 19:14:18 · answer #7 · answered by Mel B 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
sit her down eye level with you and tell her it hurts to hit and but her in time out like her bed or high chair in the corner
2007-01-30 13:31:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
HIT on the hand or mouth is good. And u need to show her who's callin the shot around the house
2007-01-30 12:57:45 · answer #9 · answered by bianca b 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
mah baby cousin does dha same thing. yu need 2 let her no whos in charge. tell her dhat if she does iht again she will b in trouble `n tak a stick out....dont hit her just scare her. it worked for mah baby cousin `n now she dont do dhat no mo.
2007-01-30 12:16:47 · answer #10 · answered by shawdie 1 · 2⤊ 3⤋