How do you stop a negative attitude towards your difficult child?

Answer 1

accept that children are born with distinct personalities, sometimes it is not exactly the one the parent would wish,,,,, also what happens sometimes/actually alot,,, is that the child is just totally different then the parent, think of the negative behaviors, and how they can be a positive, especially later in the childs life,,,,,,, an opinionated, outspoken, stubborn child,, may well turn out to be a very successful adult.........so i think that is very important, look at the habit or trait your child has,,,,,, and think how it might be a positive in some situations,,, also,,,,,,, while accepting your child as an individual, you also must make clear rules, and stick with them,,,,,,, be understanding,, but have rules of behavior, and consequences when they do not follow your rules,,,,,,,, some difficult children just respond to a different type of environment,,,, and you can work with them to find out what is troubling them, and how you and they can adjust,,,,,,,,,,,finally, remember,, that it is often the easy child,, who isnt really showing their emotions,,,,, and can have problems later in life,,,,,,,, its always a good idea, if you have concerns, to seek help from a psychologist,,,,, when my daughter was 6, and acting up,,,,, and i was in some ways allowing it due to my divorce,,,,, talk therapy helped us alot,,,,,,, to see her concerns and also how she was using the situation(while she had trauma from the divorce, she also had always been a strong willed child, so all her acting out wasnt divorce issues ) ,, so, while i dont know the age or what difficulties you are specifically having with your child,,,,,, maybe all this will hopefully give you some ideas,,,

Answer 2

I've been reading some matras lately on children and pregnancy. I'm not sure it was worth the purchase but it did have some obvious insight that's easy to forget about when you're in the thick of things.

FIRST BREATHE - it eases the tension, stops you from acting rashly, and pauses you long enough to think.
THIS TOO WILL PASS - your child's behaving not unlike other children have before him - and I'm sure there have been worse cases as well. Like all phases in our children's life, this too will pass.
GO WITH THE FLOW - Children (and adults) have bad days, break downs and act poorly sometimes. Kids don't get or care what's socially acceptable or inconvenient. If you meet them with equal hostility, that will only fuel their fire.
NO CHILD CAN BEHAVE BADLY ALL THE TIME - just like no child can be good all the time. Recognize the good behaviour with praise if you would like to see more of it (you can never over-praise). Bad behaviour (not a bad child) can be minimized if you have simple rules enforced at all times with a time out. All time outs should end with a discussion of what went wrong on his level, his/her apology, and a hug.

Answer 3

I'm still working on this myself, so not all my ideas have been tested yet :-)
The thing I focus most on is putting myself in his shoes... and trying to figure out the reasoning behind his actions or behavior. Age plays a factor in that - my son is 12, so a lot of his 'attitude' comes from boredom, frustration, and hormones. I try to keep reminding myself what I was like at 12 - then I'm thankful instead of angry!!! With younger kids, a lot of it is environmental - overstimulation, boredom, exhaustion, hunger, etc. Now that I think of it, it's the same for older kids, too.
A quick count to 10 doesn't do it for me - but a quick "God help me handle this" does.

Answer 4

as nicely the prevalent, mothers want greater valuable for their babies... Your mom would not sound like a much better than satisfied individual, nor does she have a calming existence. She's a administration freak too. you're able to desire to break loose some from her, or discover a thank you to tell her factor clean that she's too unfavorable and probable desires scientific shield melancholy, or only tell her to butt out and ideas her very own employer. some each and every physique is only very unfavorable and would possibly never see something advantageous in something - they do no longer seem to be satisfied human beings, and probable have psychological problems as nicely. i could be proud to have somebody such as you as my daughter in case you have executed a lot so quickly on your existence, aside from in line with threat having a infant so youthful.

Answer 5

There's a second before an opinion is chosen when you can choose your reaction. In that second it is up to you to decide to react positive or negative....

Answer 6

praise the positive

Answer 7

Counseling for both or all involved. Behavior modification.

Answer 8

DO POSITIVE THINGS WITH HIM AND MAYBE INCLUDE OTHERS IN LEARNING,SPORTS, AND WHATEVER YOU CAN THINK OF. TAKE THEM SWIMMING AND LET THEM WEAR DOWN. FIGURE OUT THINGS THAT EXHAUST THEM AND NOT YOU. DONT WORRY, EASY FOR ME TO SAY I GUESS !

Answer 9

Put the kid up for adoption.