Ok so i need to talk to this girl or else she will lose intrest. So when i call her she Say's "hello?" and then my mind goes blank. Can someone tell me what to say. Just break it down for me please??? And can I say to transition from one thing to another without sounding to random. Please help me.
2007-01-30 12:01:43 · 35 answers · asked by help plz!!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
be ur self and ask her things u want to know.
2007-01-30 12:06:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to answer that one would have to know more about the girl, eh? Otherwise, it is impossible to script you a conversation, nor should life ever be scripted. Don’t be too hard on yourself. I know it all feels overwhelming, so first.. before you even pick up the phone you need to take a deep slow breath. Relax. If you feel stressed or uptight you may speak before you think and fire off rapid shots of conversation too quickly.
Ok. Start with a neutral interest. Something you remember clearly about her. Try to start with something that has nothing to do with physical looks. Where did you meet her? What’s your favorite ice cream flavor? Does she have an interest in art? Does she like design? What designers?
Think of broad topics that cover a lot of interest. What do you do on weekends? What magazines do you read? Are you careful or adventurous? Do you have a myspace page? unless of course you met her on myspace…
Could she offer suggestions about your room or you clothes or your hair or shoes? Ask for her opinion of the environment, what kind of car does she drive? What was the last movie she saw? What was the first movie she ever saw in a theater? Who was her first favorite band? What is the first color she thinks of when she’s happy? Favorite color to wear….
Best of luck.. many regards..
2007-01-30 12:17:12 · answer #2 · answered by www.jlwdesign.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be casual. Say, hey it's (your name). let her say hi back and such.
Say "Well, I was calling cause I was wondering if you'd like to hang out with me and some friends some time" Asking her to hang out with just you might seem too forward, and might make give her the wrong idea of your intentions. Offer for her to invite some of her girl friends. She'll feel much more secure if you two are with other people, especially if her friends are there. And show her a great time. Get her acquainted with your friends if she isn't already, so she doesn't feel isolated at all. Show her a good, genuine, fun time. And if the night goes well, ask her out on a date.
GOOD LUCK!!! :D
2007-01-30 12:15:02 · answer #3 · answered by Carolinii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi ,her name, this is,your name, tends to be the most common response to someone saying hello on the phone. You have a bigger problem than that. The phone is the worst place to make the right impression. You really need to be talking to her in person. Be confident, keep speaking, and never be afraid. TELL HER WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT HER! even if it doesn't work out, at least you can say you gave it a shot. don't be a coward.
2007-01-30 12:09:05 · answer #4 · answered by gibson_slayer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm well try saying hello back, at least. lol so are u just looking for a you know, phone conversation, like a REAL conversation? cuz with that... just talk about anything. really! ask her about herself, and get her to talk and you can just connect and relate. The conversation will flow once you have a topic, so start one. Tlaking about childhood is always great cuz there are a lot of funny stories. always keep it focused on her, help her out when she needs it... just...TALK. lol even if ur mind goes blank, i know this sounds lame...but kinda have something prepared?
good luck!
2007-01-30 12:16:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't put so much pressure on yourself to say the right thing first of all. Anything you talk about will be okay, because she's probably just as nervous as you. The more you put her at ease the more she will like talking to you. Talk about a movie you just saw and ask what some of her favorite movies are. Talk about a concert you went to or book you read then ask what kind of music she likes and what kind of books she reads. Basically, talk about what interests you and find out what interests her to see if you have much in common. If you don't want to ask her out on a date just say...hey me and some friends are going to (fill in the blank) you and your friends should come along. Just pretend your talking to one of the guys! Trust me! Those are the guys that I always liked because they didn't PRESSURE me!
2007-01-30 12:10:07 · answer #6 · answered by CherBear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably already knows your interested by your clumsiness for conversation. Girls notice these things. Relax my friend, just think about what SHE may be interested in talking about. What are her hobbies,do you have mutual friends? Talk to her friends. See if you have a chance,her friends will let you know. You have to get her attention before you can go any further. Try talking about American Idol to break the ice. Most girls love the show so watch it and get something to discuss. Good luck Buddy, I'm rooting for you.
2007-01-30 12:17:22 · answer #7 · answered by #1 saints fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most women find it adorable when a gentlemen calls and gets a little disoriented. It is a compliment so do not get to hung up on it. Be honest and say "I am sorry but I am nervous you have that affect on me". Also my dear be a good listener don't worry so much about speaking she will undoubtedly bring up a subject that you know well and can speak about it eloquently. Let the conversation flow your nerves will settle and remember she is more than likely a little unnerved herself. So sit back, listen, observe and be natural honey and you will be fine. You'd rather hear her voice than yours right?
2007-01-30 12:15:48 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. Moxie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is simple. First write down what tp say at first. If you are really desperate, even write out a "script-like" to help you. From there you can just ask how her day is, and things about her...girls love to talk. Then you willwant to see if she wants to hang out with you cause if you just talk to shoot the **** and dont talk about seeing eachother she might think you are not interested. My best advice would be to pretend you are talking to your best friend and words will just flow better. Good luck!!!
2007-01-30 12:08:07 · answer #9 · answered by Lovely Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know that your mind is gon go blank, then before you call her write down some things yall can talk about. Think of anything you can be funny or serious. When you write them down, just think in you head how the conversation would go. need more help email me
2007-01-30 12:10:05 · answer #10 · answered by Mz.Confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need just take a couple deep breaths before you call her. Have a couple talking points in your head before you call. You need to know that she is probably nervous as well and its not like your being judged. The conversation will flow if you just chill out and realize that its just a conversation...keep it in perspective...its not the end of the world if there is some nervousness or lags in the coversation.
Good luck!
2007-01-30 12:09:10 · answer #11 · answered by Sam s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋