She is 17 months old and hasn't acted like this since she was one, and we took her bottle away. Even then it wasn't this bad. We make sure she is sleepy before putting her down, but she'll cry for an hour. If we go get her and rock her or put her in the bed with us she will immediately go to sleep, but then wakes up and cries again for an hour if we move her to her bed. We don't want to make it a habbit of letting her sleep with us, cuz we have a boy due in 3 weeks who will sleep in our room with us. She is really starting to make me mad, because I know there is nothing wrong with her. How can I make her stop?!?!
2007-01-30 11:59:07 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
you have got to be firm. You have been giving in and giving her what she wants, basically telling her is she throws a fit she will get her way.
Get a cd of lullaby music, turn it just loud enough she can hear it good, kiss her goodnight, put her in her crib and walk out. She will cry herself to sleep for maybe 2-3 nights then she will be just fine. I know it sounds mean, but it does work. You have got to be firm.
2007-01-30 12:22:30 · answer #1 · answered by Chrissy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy way out. I had to deal with the same with my daughter. You just have to be consistant. I know it sooooooo dificult, but if you do it for 2 weeks STRAIGHT you will almost be gaurenteed she will get used to sleeping alone. It may take up to 3. As long as you make sure she is fed there is nothing to worry about. I would suggest given her a special pillow or blanket. If she does not already have one, go together to choose one out. Somehting she really likes and when you put her down, make it a point that she has her "" with her. It was hard for me. It took alot of effort between my husband and I, but after 2 weeks,"no more crying". It took "me" 2 weeks to get used to no hearing her cry LOL. Getting a snack and reading a book before bed really help as well. Let her cry, it's not going to hurt her (only hurt you emotionally) it can be changed with training it does take time and patience. .Trust me, my daughter cried so hard and loud it was difficult. Try to put some music on for yourself or movie. She can only cry for so long and then will need "to take a break". She is waiting for you to go "rescue her" Don't do it.
Again, as long as you know she is fed and is in a safe envioriment, let her cry, it's ok.
2007-01-30 20:27:32 · answer #2 · answered by Flaca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is seriously the most frustrating part of having a child I think. The nights... and feedings!!!
My son is going through this right now. We have good nights and bad nights. I will say though that he has a lot of problems with his ears and I suspect some of this is related.
Occasionally when I'm having a bad day and I just CAN'T deal with the thought of listening to him cry for hours I (make sure he's fed a good snack before bed and a large bottle of formula) sit in his rocking chair and return emails and surf the net with the lights off. He crys for a very short time and then lays there and watches me and falls asleep. Not really the best idea though....
If you really won't to break this you must let them cry it out..or so were told. We've started doing this. They do eventually give up. It really really sucks going through this though.
I don't suggest you bring her to bed with you. Can you imagine if she starts waking up during the night everynight to sleep with you!!! AAGGHH
2007-01-30 20:21:30 · answer #3 · answered by BabyQuestions 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well no matter what, don't let her sleep with you.( Unless that is what you want, it sounded like you don't want that) You have to let her cry it out. I had the same problem with my daughter. She would wake up and scream at night! My husband suggested we let her cry it out, she did and fell back asleep. If you keep putting her to sleep by rocking, etc.. she will become dependent on it.
2007-01-30 21:51:09 · answer #4 · answered by Brandy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Patience, and lots of it. Try putting her in her room with a dim light on and see if that works. As long as you know there is nothing wrong with her you'll just have to let her cry, and yes I know this is difficult, or you're setting yourself up to allow her to "win" on everything else from here on out. Patience, and maybe some earplugs.
2007-01-30 20:08:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is pretty common for kids that age to start fighting going to bed, even when they are sleepy.
the best thing for you to do is to establish a bedtime ritual. probably it should include some combo of bath, tooth brushing, and reading a story or listening to a lullaby. children find the routine comforting, and with the little one coming, your daughter will probably be doubly reassured that she is still important to you by getting the one-on-one attention.
2007-01-30 20:18:13 · answer #6 · answered by Jeff G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can probably sense something is going on especially if you already have to babies bed set up in your room.
My son did this towards the end of my pregnancy right after I put up the bassinet in my room.
2007-01-30 20:05:24 · answer #7 · answered by goodmommy22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put a bed on her floor for a few nights and sleep in there with her but her in her bed
2007-01-30 20:08:56 · answer #8 · answered by tamah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say put on some soothing music, that always helped me when i wanted my little bro's to shut up when they were a baby, it works.
2007-01-30 20:07:22 · answer #9 · answered by isawufirst116 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sing her to sleep with a song like this little light of mine that's what I used on mine
2007-01-30 20:19:58 · answer #10 · answered by alexis c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋