My dad is retarded. He is probably the worst dad i know. He was never home. But the worst part was that he wasn't ever THERE for me when I was little and when I was 10 my parents divorced, but quite frankly, I was relieved. He would yell and hit us (like not abusively.. well i guess technichally it was, but like w/ a belt) anyway, he was never a father to me and he still isn't. Since they've divorced (I'm almost 14) I've seen him what, 3 times? He calls us about three times every year. Once to get us to his house, the other b/c my step mom calls us first..and we usually get into a fight w/ him on that phone call..and the third to tell us he's moving yet again. (He's very typical) He married a woman and I like her b/c she's exactly like me mom (looks and all) b/c my dad wasn't over her and I'm sure he's abused her b4 which is really sad, but I'm almost positive he has. Anyway, me and my dad have always had problems b/c he is just a alsdjf;lajsdfl; and I couldn't ever stand it...........
2007-01-30 11:53:54 · 7 answers · asked by cdun1111 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Anyway, my stepmom told me that he wanted to move near me and i was like HAHA noOOOOOOOOOOOOOOoooOOoOoOooooooOOOO and she agrees w/ me. We got into a huge fight and I finally ended up hanging up on him and I haven't talked to him since. Mind you, he called me 2 days after Christmas... he didn't even call on Christmas. He said I should accept responsibility on my part and I told him I'm not going to apologize for him b/c that's exactly what he wanted. He's a b*****d and I know it, but should I give him another chance? I'm not going to come running back to him b/c he's done too much to me already, but if he apologizes (which is unlikely cuz he's never done it in his life!!) should I try again, or can I call it quits?
I KNOW THIS IS A LOT... PLEASE HELP THOUGH.
2007-01-30 11:57:44 · update #1
Your Dad seems like a lost cause. Don't waste your time by trying to have a relationship clearly he is so not worth it. Looks like he is not being a real man. You have nothing to lose by cutting him off of your life. A real Dad takes care of his child or children and interact with them on a daily basis. Apparently your dad is arrogant pompous and not worthy of being loved. He is not being fair or supportive of you at all. If someone does not treat you right just write him/her out of your life. With that being said just because someone is related to you by blood that does not give them special privledges. Even though your dad is a deadbeat you can focus on having a better relationship with your mother and stepmother. Make your realtionship stronger with these two special ladies in your life. Fight for your right! Don't let your dad dissapoint you any longer. Take care of yourself and your mother and stepmother!
2007-01-30 12:57:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anthony D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you resent your dad for your parents getting divorced. you need to realize there were 2 people in the marriage and i am not saying your mom or dad was at fault but sometimes things just dont work out.
some people change as they get older they realize the mistakes they made when younger and if possible try to fix those problems.
stop being so hard on your dad he is reaching out to you and if you continue to shoot him down then he will eventually give up ( thats just human nature)
spend some time with him one on one but DO NOT bring up the past ........work on the future.
2007-01-30 12:06:33 · answer #2 · answered by schally31 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From journey, i ought to say, NO! do not reduce your self short, there's quite a number of adult adult males available that should be better ideal. Plus, if he dated your chum, why not again, with yet another chum. ought to you even believe him which includes your friends? To a lot luggage to quite sense free, as far as i will see! Get out of it at the same time as you may. If ya'll get married, that is a undeniable divorce down the line! there is better to a relationship then love, and it type of appears like it truly is all you've with him! solid success!
2016-12-03 06:25:26 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should try again because after all, he is your dad. just tell him that you are willing to forgive him if he can accept some responsibility, otherwise you dont see how you can continue to have a relationship with him. tell him you would also appreciate that he care more about you, or you wont care about him. hope that helps!
2007-01-30 12:05:02 · answer #4 · answered by laura c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometime you have to find it and your heart weather you wont to give him a second chance or not. Just think about it for a couple days. the answer will come.
2007-01-30 12:10:01 · answer #5 · answered by bianca b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray for your father and ask our lord and savior Jesus Christ to touch his heart and make him a better man.
2007-01-30 13:10:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just stop being so "grown up" and be the child
2007-01-30 12:39:46 · answer #7 · answered by bajllc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋