Im with this person and I love them alot, or at least I think I do. We havent been going out that long, only like 2 weeks, and I keep catching myself looking at other people. I really dont want to hurt this person, but something has to be done.
2007-01-30 11:50:06 · 21 answers · asked by Langston A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its a guy think to want to look. especially when its only been two weeks. its kinda like you have to "train" yourself. next time a hot girl walk by, as soon as you look at her turn and look at your g/f in the eyes until you think the girl walking by is gone. of course your g/f will ask why you are looking at her but it is a simple answer. just say that you are captured by her eys, your that she is so beautiful and you cant help it. anything like that. but change it up everytime she askes. i started doing this, i even do it when some girl shows her boobs in a movie we are watching. i now dont have the desire to look. i honestly pay no attention to the girls around me or on t.v. it really works.
2007-01-30 11:57:43 · answer #1 · answered by music man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking is ok but touching is another matter. If you really feel like you can't control this matter then you are being the bigger person just by bringing it to your own attention. You could talk about it. If you are young like under 20, be man enough to discuss it with her. She may in turn say they look at other guys. It's a two way street. If you don't act on those other feelings but just look, the both of you it could be quite healthy. How many times when you see a hot chick in a movie and say "Oh she's hot" or she's an alrighty etc. If you are too afraid to bring it up the traditional way bring it up in a movie kind of way and ask her who she likes and who she thinks is hot. But I must say don't you end up getting jealous when she brings it up since you've already been looking. Good luck
2007-01-30 12:23:43 · answer #2 · answered by sexy rack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you just like this person physically it is not rare that it happen, but after 2 weeks going out, and if you say you love'em?.. you should have some of your feelings compromised, when this happen to me it is even difficult to think of other people, now what to say about looking which is kind of physical and superficial, you should be sincere with yourself and find out what are your real feelings, if you don't do so surely you will hurt that person.. you know world is full of very attractive people..
2007-01-30 12:12:32 · answer #3 · answered by Kooper Boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you look at them and think "hey, attractive!"
Or do you look at them and think "I'd rather get with that one than the one I've got!"
If the former, relax; having a loving, caring relationship doesn't mean you turn into a different person. To be polite, stop yourself when your significant other is around, but otherwise don't worry about it -- it means nothing.
If the latter, well, that's awfully telling; if you'd rather be with someone else, do your partner a favor and let them go. No one wants to be Mr. or Mrs. Good-enough-for-now.
2007-01-30 11:54:01 · answer #4 · answered by daveowenville 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is natural, you guys are still getting to know each other, deciding if this relationship is right. Even when your together for a long time, its not like you loose your eyesight. You can appriciate beauty/good looks without compromising your partner's feelings. Just don't make it so obvious or act on them and its completly ok.
2007-01-30 11:53:53 · answer #5 · answered by ophierose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should just get to know this person a lot more. If you do and you start to really like her, then you wouldn't care about anyone else except her. But from right now, if she sees you looking at other people, she will dump you.
2007-01-30 11:53:19 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
say the words that we all mean the most we should see other people it may hurt but who knows maybe they arent the person you like so much. Then if the girl your with is the girl you like the most then it wont be a problem.
2007-01-30 11:55:23 · answer #7 · answered by unknown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Imagine her doing the same thing and how it would make you feel. Consider her feelings. Be a grown up and keep your eyes on her. It isn't that hard if you love her a lot. Or him. Whichever!
2007-01-30 11:53:40 · answer #8 · answered by Aiden 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is no problem at looking at other people, but keep it to looking only, dont compare with your partner. WE should appreciate beauty everywhere. it does not mean you will hurt your partner in this way.
2007-01-30 11:55:50 · answer #9 · answered by UpNorthDownSouth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U love him in 2 weeks time? Umm, hate to break it to ya....thats not love sweety. No wonder your still lookin at other people.
2007-01-30 11:54:40 · answer #10 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋