my bf is a in private serucirty and does jobs in place like iraq and kuait. i am 3 months pregant and have trouble dealing with his job now that we are going to be parents. often i can't reach him and when i do it is only for 5mins or just random text messages. that stop as soon as they start. he has said that he really wants the baby and will be there. i amjust wondering has anyone else dealt with something like this and how did you deal with it. I worry all the time that he is gonna get hurt. it could be the hormones or the fact that i have not heard from him in 4 days and the last thing he said was he was waiting to leave iraq. please help
2007-01-30 11:44:15 · 4 answers · asked by mrs. smutty aka sodachix 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
we talked about marriage but need to wait till he gets home. Also he is a british citizen and has applied for a visa so we can do that.
2007-01-30 11:53:20 · update #1
You haven't heard from him in 4 days? Oh my.... what will you ever do?
Keep this in mind... in world war 2, letters took up to 2 months to get home. In Vietnam it took up to 3 weeks for letters to get home. And now, we can get email in a matter of seconds...but you forget one very important thing..... he is doing a dangerous job and just because email is available, his job may have taken him somewhere where email is not available. Don't expect him to contact you everyday or else you will be greatly disappointed and worried on a daily basis.
Give him some time.... between access issues and the demands of the job.... he may not be able to write every day or even every few days... Just be supportive. What he is doing is imporatnt. And he is probably trying to build himself some financial security as well. Be patient! And just appreciate the contact you do get.
2007-01-30 11:57:52 · answer #1 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While the uncertainty and known dangers are difficult to deal with, very similar dangers are all around us in what we like to believe is a peaceful continent. To help him is to support him as he does what he knows best to provide for those he loves. As long as he knows he has your support, and he can talk to you calmly about anything, he will soon choose to do less risky work, as he begins to see and accept his responsibilities as a father and mate.
2007-01-30 11:52:45 · answer #2 · answered by skquietguy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He knew what he was getting into when he joined the military.
U got to calm down and take care of yourself and think
positive and pray for him over there.
http://www.military.com
2007-01-30 11:49:15 · answer #3 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't suppose the subject of marriage ever came up before you got pregnant?
2007-01-30 11:48:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋