love question?

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I live with my gf, we've been together 16 years and have a teenage son, which is my life. but i'm not happy at all ,in fact I feel like I want to be anywhere except around her. I know i should love her but she does not trust me, Ive never cheated on her ever! but thats all she has on her mind is that i have,I am depressed all the time, dont really look forward to anything anymore other than seeing my Son everyday. I feel like alot of times to get get in my car and leave for a week or so, time to relax and try ti figure out what I need to do in my life if you will.....every time I've truly wanted to just end the relationship, she uses my son as a pond, I can't live without him in my life......I would be nothing without him, does anybody else feel this way ever? Thanx

Answer 1

if you are religious, ask God what to do. He always helps buddy. My advice would be don't worry. If you really don't love her anymore, and she treats you terribly, then you need to leave her. Maybe you could get custody of your son. I'm only saying this with the knowledge of those two things though. I don't know the whole story, but if you are unhappy, you shouldn't be that for the rest of your life. Since your son is a teenager, maybe he'll understand more. This is coming from a kid who had to live through divorce. It's a tough decision, but you need to ask yourself why you got with her in the first place, and see if that's worth staying. Good luck pal and I'll pray for you

Answer 2

Try to pull yourself together so you can have a positive outlook on the situation. That should help at least some on dealing with whatever issues you need to face with her. You most likely do love the gf because you have a child with her and stayed for 16 years! Honestly, that is something that most men are looking for is long-term companionship, you have it! So yes, there may be some problems, ones you feel you cannot overcome. But look at your son, see how important he is to you and how important it is for him to grow up in a healthy environment. Use him as your motivation to find out what the love between your gf and you can do!

If you have never cheated on her, have you ever asked why she thinks that? Ask her if there is anything you can do to make her feel better. I understand how accusations can make you feel...because you would possibly never think that she was running around on you...so it hurts to hear it from her. It sort of discounts all the love you feel for her because it is like she doesn't believe you do love her. Tell her how you feel.

Do you still go on "dates" with your gf? Try to do some things to bring the love that you both have back into the relationship.... plan a movie night (just the two of you) every week, go for walks.....

Good Luck...

Answer 3

Do think carefully and see an attorney before moving out. once you have moved out, it may be too late to reverse decisions. your son needs his father. As his father you have legal rights. Make sure you know what they are. I'm trouble'd though by your statement that you would be nothing without him. He is not in your life for your gratification, rather visa versa, your are in his life for his benefit. Please be the father and let him be a kid. It sounds like you, your girlfriend, and your son, all have some major issues and are a dysfunctional family unit. Please seek therapy, for yourself, your son, and if she will go, your girlfriend.

Good Luck

Answer 4

When something is bringing you down, and you start changing emotionally or it's draining you... it's not worth hanging on too regardless of someone trying to use something as a "chain" to hold the relationship together

Answer 5

You two should get counseling together, right away. If that doesn't work, bite the bullet & get out.

This is not a "love" question, but is a "life" question. Life is too short to waste time being miserable.