I have been dating my boyfriend for almost two years now. He hasn't spoken to his ex-girlfriend for almost three...until last semester when she was in his class. (They only dated for five months). Now she is in his class again this semester. I know he loves me, and only me, but now he says that they are "friends." He said that what he had with her was nothing, a joke. It bothers me so much! How can I deal with my feelings without blowing up on him?
2007-01-30 11:29:34 · 9 answers · asked by Frogger 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ugh, that would bother me so much. I can imagine how you would feel. I get jealous when my boyfriend talks to his old crushes :\. As long as they're only talking in that class then it shouldn't be too bad. Ask him if they're really "friends" or just old acquaintances. If you see/hear any communicating out of class then maybe ask him how he'd feel if you started talking to an old ex (if you have one, if not, then maybe a guy he doesn't like or something) and see if you can get him to see things from your point of view. If he still doesn't get it, then boys will be boys. Just keep an eye on him and try to keep trusting him. After two years you have to know him pretty well right?
If you have to tell him how you feel, make sure that you remember to breathe! He might not really know that you're hiding so much frustration, he might think you understand that there's nothing between them! Don't get too harsh unless he gives you a good legitimate reason.
Best of luck :).
2007-01-30 11:38:12 · answer #1 · answered by Pyrai 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ah young love I remember it well. When you are in love or even just friends you have to develop a trust between you. He could have many friends who are girls, same as you, you could have boys as friends. If you love each other you must trust each other with other people. That's life. Talk to him about your feelings but say also that you trust him. Whatever you do, don't ask him to stop being friends with the girl.
2007-01-30 19:34:41 · answer #2 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you need to get over this one. I'm friends with majority of my exes and it is purely platonic. Have a bit of faith in your man
2007-01-30 19:33:41 · answer #3 · answered by LadyRebecca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah that would bother me to but you just have to act like it doesnt bother you. Unless you have reason to worry!
2007-01-30 19:34:55 · answer #4 · answered by S F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
difficult isnt it!! i feel like this with my b/f who is friends with his ex... but i have to trust him, i dont say anything about it, but i do ask for complete honesty in our relationship and as long as he dosnt go "out" wih her then its fine, if i found they went out somewhere together then i would be mad, very mad!!
2007-01-30 19:34:27 · answer #5 · answered by merrpet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you have any male friends? Get over it before you push him back into her arms.
2007-01-30 19:32:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to trust him. I kno its upsetting for u. But his is ur bf. Just trust him.
2007-01-30 19:33:08 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥Pro♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no need to be jealous. if he is truly a good bf, he'll stay by ur side
2007-01-30 19:33:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he had sex with her before its only time before it happens again.
2007-01-30 19:35:10 · answer #9 · answered by MuzikDJ 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋