In 1971, I was in 8th grade. I remember going to about three or four parties where kids were necking. (me inlcuded!) I remember one party where we were in an added on room with a pool table and such - and after awhile, the lights went out and everybody was just making out for about - I don't know - hours. At one point the Mom came in and said - "It's okay - I just have to get something" - and then she just left, knowing full well what was going on. Was my mother just naive letting me go to these parties? I have a child who is 12 and in the 7th grade. I'm wondering if this will be the norm for her soon - or if I was just running with a different crowd. We would never allow anything like that to go on in our home. Did any of you go to parties like this age back in the 60's and 70's? Is this going on in homes today? Maybe I just had a weird childhood.
2007-01-30 11:26:56 · 6 answers · asked by liddabet 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I graduated in 1973 and went to lots of those kinds of parties. Some parents just let their children get away with it. The one party I was allowed to have (in our basement) was looked in on A LOT! After that, I knew we couldn't do anything and never asked to have another. My kids never had an unsupervised party either. I think many parents just give in to their kids, cause it's easier and they want to be cool, and be friends with their children. My job is not to be a friend, my job is to be a parent, and hopefully my kids will still want to be around us. So far, it's gone pretty good.
2007-01-30 11:34:50 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it goes on now because parents want to be their children's friend not their parent.
When I was a kind in the 70's, I was very much supervised as were my friends. I believe we were trusted more than we trust our children today, but we lived in a very different time. Kids today have no regard for authority, and a lot of parents are just too busy to get involved. In my opinion that is the same as not giving a damm. My children are 15 and 16 and until the day they move out, they know that I need to speak to a parent before they are allowed to go to any parties. We've had many instances of parents allowing alcohol in their home because in their warped minds they'd rather their kids drink in "controlled environments.
That to me is BS, and my kids aren't allowed to go to something like that. They know that, they accept that and as of now they've never crossed that line. They know that I will wait up, and on occassions I have called to make sure the parent is still there during the party. They also know I trust them.
Kids in our day were rather afraid of the consequences of "acting out" and I think the mom of your friend wasn't in the majority. But then again, location, location, location may also be the key to the "free for all" attitude of this parent.
Stick to your guns and set your own standards. Just because everyone is doing it, doesn't make it right. Your kids will be better parents because of your diligence/concern and above all, love.
2007-01-30 19:39:52 · answer #2 · answered by Allison S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I was a teen in the eighties, and there were parties like that that went on, and I remember I was not aloud to go. Lots of kids were, I guess it depends on the parents. I would never allow that with my son because it leads to to many other things.
However don't feel bad, your parents are only human and do make mistakes and it is good that you can see that that was wrong. That is in the past and you are making sure your daughter does not participate in something like that.
2007-01-30 20:02:50 · answer #3 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was not allowed to attend parties. But, the one time I did, the MOTHER came into the room of 14-16 years olds (!) and sweetly passed a tray of every drug that money could buy at the time around like a hostess with a snack tray. I called my parents to come fetch me.
2007-01-30 19:37:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember having parties at houses where the parents weren't at home! But I'm know what you mean. In hindsight, it seems odd that my parents and my friends' parents didn't watch us more closely.. It was like they didn't want to know. I spent my 7th grade summer going over to a friend's house, whose parents were at work. My parents never asked me if there were any adults at home (and of course, I didn't volunteer that info, we were busy smoking cigarettes) and they never called the other parents.
2007-01-30 19:42:01 · answer #5 · answered by TaDa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please do not suggest sending cops in for neckers.
please don't . please . please ...please don't ask cops to break up kids necking....if you do i am going to have a tantrum. listen.
the cops are already busy keeping underprivileged kids away from the big money earners in society ...well...you know....?...so they don't get in their way of course. i mean. it is important that societies vain and dumb have all the freedom they need to earn big dollars. and they would really only prefer to have little children around when it makes for good public relations.
please don't ask cops to break up neckers. i know cops that will do it. they are not very bright. but they enjoy bullying the little ones.
bad bad police (wo)men
2007-01-30 19:47:27 · answer #6 · answered by noninvultuous 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋