Okay I've been trying for the past few months to reach out to my ex-wife and be friendly with her. I've told her that I just want to be friends and nothing else. She tells me that she doesn't feel comfortable speaking to me because her current boyfriend would disapprove. I agreed to not call her, however I did send her a text message saying happy New Years and Merry Christmas. After I did that she called and left a message on my voicemail saying that she got in trouble from her boyfriend because I left two harmless messages that I sent to everyone. I sent her a message back stating that I will never contact her again. Then today she calls me, I answer and she tells me that she called the wrong number. I just said, ok, bye. She has done that in the past a couple of times. Do you think it was an honest mistake or she intentionally dialed my number?
2007-01-30 11:26:32 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like she is an idiot. Come on, she is an adult and her boyfriend should'nt care if she talks with her ex-husband every once in a long while. Or maybe her boyfriend is a jerk. And how would the boyfriend find the text message? And why would he care if it were harmless? Maybe she is trying to maintain some kind of control over you and manipulate your emotions. I would just let it go, obviously she and her beau are too immature to handle her having even a few lines of dialague pass between you.
2007-01-30 11:32:02 · answer #1 · answered by kmankman4321 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My first thought was, do you have children together? If so, then you need to be in contact with her because of your kids. If not, I wouldn't worry about the reason she called you unless you want to get back together with her. The fact that you are pondering over the reason she called makes me think you are still into her. Is it because she is seeing someone new? There must be a reason your relationship ended, so I think you should try to find someone new or take some time for yourself. Don't worry about the game that she is playing. You deserve better than that. Try to move on.
2007-01-30 19:42:01 · answer #2 · answered by girliegirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she is intentionally calling you.. maybe to hear your voice or maybe to reach out to you. She may really not be in a good situation with the new boyfriend and need a little spirit lifting. If it were me I would (if you are on good enough terms) I would jsut ask is everything ok with you and your new boyfriend... or do you really think you need to be with him or find someone else who will treat you better. Reassure her that you are not trying to break them up or get her back (unless you do) but rather to help her look at things from the outside looking in and search inside herself for her real feelings for him. Hope this helps, Bitty
2007-01-30 19:34:24 · answer #3 · answered by Bitty 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
According to experts the "No Contact" rule is best (unless there are children involved).
Don't read too much into the dialed calls or you'll be setting yourself up for a set back.
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2007-01-30 19:33:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is a little confused. It is normal for people to reflect back on previous interests, especially when they start to encounter conflicts with the new interest. She has made it clear to you that she doesn't want you to contact her, so you should respect that. You have made it clear to her that you want to be friends and that you are open to communication. The ball is in her court. It is now up to her to decide what she wants to do about it. Good luck. Don't get into too much trouble.
2007-01-30 19:31:46 · answer #5 · answered by Yomi 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Could be either, but maybe she was hoping you would say more than ok bye. That's really sad though that she has to pretend to her BF that she never had a past, kinda silly. Who needs that drama? When she breaks up with him, she'll probably call and apologize anyway, so maybe just leave it at that for now and see what develops later.
2007-01-30 19:30:13 · answer #6 · answered by Princess~C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I done that by mistake...Just because a friends # was just like my girls dad # it was funny because i really dial the wrong #...And sometimes the # of an ex- have a few #'s similar to someone us # so it can be a mistake remember she was used to dial yours and can be just a totally mistake...It happend to me so it can happend to anybody...
2007-01-30 19:33:21 · answer #7 · answered by nena_en_austin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she called you on purpose. However, I think her current boy friend is a little weird and I don't like the chances of her current relationship lasting. If she rings again tell her that you want to be her friend and she should contact you when she thinks it is safe and her b/f doesn't need to know. Get her to have an email address that b/f cannot access if she want to keep your friendship a secret.
2007-01-30 19:31:24 · answer #8 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
honestly, just forget about her. and EX is an EX for a reason.
If she doesn't want you to contact her, then just don't.. otherwise she could take you to court for harassment or even have a restraining order issued.
just leave her be, move on, you don't need to be friends with her. you'll be happier once you realize this.
2007-01-30 19:41:02 · answer #9 · answered by Fluffington Cuddlebutts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does it matter if it was or not? She is gone.....leave her alone. Besides, if she wanted to be with you...what would stop her from coming back to you? Do yourself a favor and stop thinking about whether it was an accident or on purpose, life would be much simpler.
2007-01-30 19:30:59 · answer #10 · answered by skagen.2006 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋