She expects me to get all A's when I am trying the best I can. And we have honor roll and that's when you can't get a grade lower than a B- and I got a B- in math so I am still on the honor roll. Still, she said "A B-??? That's almost a C!" But I didn't get a C! I got a B! So why does she have to worry about something I didn't even get? I am in 7th grade and we have tons of work and she is always comparing me to my old friend who is Little Miss Perfect. I always talk to my mom about this but she says she has "normal expectations" for me. High honors is all A's. Instead of being happy I made honors, she yells at me for not getting high honors. What can I do about this???
2007-01-30 11:21:51 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you are her daughter and she expects the best from you. there is nothing wrong with that but let her know that all you can do is your very best and that you never slack off and if you happen to get a B- tell her that you really did give it your best and you intend to keep giving it your best, but you don't need the pressure of having to prove something that you have already given your best shot at. let her know it hurts you and that she has to understand that you don't mean to fail, and you haven't, but this is the best that you can do and her pushing you to do better, when you gave it your best shot, is hurting you rather than helping you. please allow me to apply myself in the best way i know how without all the guilt of not doing what you expect of me. i have given it the best i could - and really mean this, do the the best you could -and if this is all i can come up with in grades, be happy that i'm not failing.
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2016-11-01 22:20:57 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, face facts with yourself....are you REALLY doing all you can to earn the best grades of which you are capable? Are you able to not go to a friend's house when you should be prepping for a test? Are you able to not stay on the phone or going out with the gang when important things need to be taken care of?
ETC.? But make sure that you are doing all that is expected in taking care of your educational duties.
If you sincerely are putting 100% into the educational tasks and you still are being an under-achiever in the eyes of your mother, possibly seek the advice of your educators as to communicating things "rationally" with your mother. IF you are just trying to take the easy road and have educators make excuses for you, you will be learning a bad habit that will haunt you forever. Take care of the important things and the resulting benefits will help take care of you.
2007-01-30 11:36:40 · answer #3 · answered by donkey hotay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I wouldn't have high expectations for my kids to have straight A's ya know because that sad and I want my kids to do best in school and you got B and B- that good and you said you never got C or F or D which is good I rather you have B... and your mother must growing up from family that she need you to do the same... things change since all those years of hers she need to look at you and If she want you to have A's in class all the time then she need to teach you and show you how to do it and not just sit back and tell you must have A's .......
my gosh... as long you are happy with your grade then let your mother be upset and when you go to college believe me and you will have better A.A. B.A. or B.S. M.S. you will get that and then you can show to her that I did what I did my best and I got to where I am.
You need support from your family not have highest expectations from you 1,000 times more. wow. stessful life..
so, as long you are happy keep up the great job and you still have honor roll wow better than me when i was in high school you have the best grade and I very very proud of you and don't let her crash your feelings.
keep it up... smiling.
2007-01-30 11:46:05 · answer #4 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Encouragement and parental support work more effectively than being yelled at over grades, I personally have never understood this attitude in parents although I understand that they only want the best for you.
But when my daughters grades fell I tried to find out why, we had moved interstate and found that it wasn't the student it was the state educational system here.
2007-01-30 12:01:33 · answer #5 · answered by polynesiachick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's really sad that parents expect more than a child's best. I would tell her how frustrating it is to try and be perfect for them, and that you are trying your very best, and that you should be praised sincerely. So many kids goof off and don't even try. My son has a real tough time retaining information, he always has. He has never quit trying and always studies. If he gets a C, I am happy for him, and he is happy for himself, because he knows, and I know, he did his very best. Your mom needs to realize the stress that she is putting on you, the frustration and anger that it is causing.
2007-01-30 12:18:02 · answer #6 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know in your heart that you are trying hard, that's what matters. As long as you are truly trying.
She's just being a typical mother who wants to see her child succeed in her grades. Maybe she knows how intelligent you are and she wants you to show it through your grades.
If you've talked to her and you feel you can't really get through to her, write her a letter. A mature letter about how you feel and how you are trying hard. Leave it on the kitchen table where she'll find it in the morning, or somewhere she'll discover it while you're at school. Letters are more personal and it'll force her to focus on what you are saying rather than cutting you off or sharing her input while you're talking.
Take it from me. I'm 21, in college, and I wrote a letter to my parents about studying abroad.
It might work. And if she still can't see you're doing your best, just keep trying. At least you know you're trying.
2007-01-30 11:48:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Expectations too high? Demands too high? I don't think so! I think she has these expectations and demands because she is trying to make sure your future will be a good one. It's out of love.... she's your mom, get use to it.
2007-01-30 12:00:49 · answer #8 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋