I'm 19 and i'm done with playing around in life. all i want to do is find the woman of my dreams and get my carrier started.
i'm going with a girl now and i'm madly in love with her, we been going out for 4 months, today :) we have so much in common and everything is going great and getting better. shes helpful, supportive and very smart. after about 10 or 11 months if everything is still going great would it be wrong if i proposed to her?
Most people probably think that were all lustful, but we both chose not to be sexual other than kissing because we don't want to be in lust. can i have some advice?
Now This was my original question. i've been thinking about there answers so i came up with this.
Propose, have a long engagment. finish college and save as much money as we can. after college move in togethor and once were situated then if were ready and still want to get merried at like 25, 26?
Somone tell me what they think.
2007-01-30 11:19:33 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think you sound young an nieve
2007-01-30 11:47:44 · answer #1 · answered by meditation and mango juice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ha you sound very familiar. I had the same goals and ideas, and basically still do, but something happened I didn't intend. My advice would first, be patient. I am 20 and you are 19. We're both so young. I wanted to get married to my ex, and everyone, and I mean EVERYONE knew we would get married, but that didn't happen. She decided to split not just our relationship but our friendhsip as well. We were so in love. So second, you can't see the future. Take it a little slower. I was even planning on proposing to her within a year. Some things that you don't want to happen, don't prepare for, because you think they'll never happen. We both thought that once, but our marriage never took place.
So be patient, and soak it all up. Think positive too. Even if I said stuff that was depressing, it doesn't happen to everyone, and you guys might make it. So good luck, and if it's true love you guys will be fine.
2007-01-30 11:36:38 · answer #2 · answered by joeyschiliro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as an idea, it's not bad, but I wouldn't set it in stone. On one hand, you're talking about popping the question before you're 21, but not doing anything about it until you're 26?
For me, you're so in love with a girl, that you never want to let her go, and so you ask her. The idea, that this girl is going good so far, that you've planned your life, and she might well be the one??? It's like having the wedding dress, but no groom. Sure have these concepts in your head, but it's best to just suck it and see how things work out. Don't be proposing just because you think it's time. If she hasn't grabbed your heart and stolen it in 10 months, don't ask her to marry you, because it's time...
2007-01-30 11:57:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all like to plan out lives the way we want them to go.Sounds like you do have your priorities in line.Alot can happen in 7 or 8 years.I would say go for the engagement and see if things stay the same.Best of luck!!!
2007-01-30 11:40:12 · answer #4 · answered by rockman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
19 ??? Done with playing around ??? Madly in love with a girl you've only known for 4 months ??????? No sex ?? My guess is she doesn't fancy you geez and will have moved on very soon (if she has any sense) or are you gay really ??
2007-01-30 11:41:52 · answer #5 · answered by Debate1948 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That sounds like a really good plan. I will keep my fingers crossed that it will work out for you.
Good Luck!
2007-01-30 11:31:24 · answer #6 · answered by Unhinged.... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋