Looks ARE everything?

Question

I used to not think that way though. But I feel like in high school how you look determines wheter or not you will like the next four years of your life! The pretty girls are popular because they have loads of confidence and guys go ga-ga over them.

Popularity isn't everything, I know that. I'm not concerned about being popular. I just want to feel comfortable in my own skin. My self esteem is looow. I feel so ugly sometimes. (My hair is short, my lips are huge, my nose looks weird, my chest is as flat as a board, and my eyes are plain and boring. See what I mean about the whole self-esteem thing??) I hear the girls at my school say the meanest things! I hear them say stuff like:
"she has THE ugliest smile I've ever seen"
"he's not hot! He's soo ugly"
I can't stand the thought of some1 saying that stuff about me! me feeling so ugly all the time has affected my school life. I have no friends and I hardly speak in class. Does any1 have adive for me? Please and thank you! :)

Answer 1

It's truly disgusting how cruel people can be to each other in high school, and how much of it is based on mere looks and athletic ability. The irony is that for the vast, vast majority, neither of these things will amount to a hill of beans in the real world after graduation. Nevertheless, if you're not in the cute club or the jock club (or both), high school can seem like the longest four years of your entire life. Frankly, I wouldn't want to repeat them for all the gold in Fort Knox. Well... maybe for that, but I'd still insist on keeping all of the experience I've accumulated since then. It might even be fun under those conditions.

Anyway, my advice to you would be twofold: (1) Focus like a laser on your studies, and do everything you can to excel academically, regardless of who else cares. The payback will be later, but more than worth the effort. (2) Get involved in some extracurricular activity that you enjoy, even if it's with the geeky/nerdy/ugly people. Real friends who share YOUR interests are always better than fake friends who treat you like a plaything or a charity case, then toss you aside when it's to their social advantage to do so.

Go forth and conquer. Someday the pretty people will be working for you!
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Answer 2

You know what? Trust me that all of that crap will end after high school. Kids can be real mean if anyone looks a little different. I knew this one girl who was kind of awkward in HS and turned into a raving beauty (literally) when I saw her a few yrs later. Another girl had this exotic look that wasnt quite the norm and was teased probably because the other girls were jealous. I'm not going to lie to you, looks are important in HS to the fact that it determines your popularity. But I'll tell you right now, when I went to my HS reunion, most of the cheerleaders and popular girls were not so hot anymore. The best looking girls were the ones that the guys never looked twice at. Honest to God. So dont worry. You may be going through an awkward phase and they can last until you are 20 or so. It's hard to look in the mirror and see how good looking we really are because we look at ourselves all the time. We dont see what others see, and we see what others dont. You get used to looking at yourself so you cant tell. You'll find that you are probably prettier than you think. Once you get out of HS you will get more confidence in yourself. And if by chance you want to make yourself look better, there is always a little cosmetic surgery. I dont know you or what you look like but I bet you will be fine. I know it sucks for you now but there's not much you can do about the others. Just try and feel good about yourself. I bet you have more to offer the world than some stale generic cheerleader. Lots of Luck to you.

Answer 3

Looks are NEVER everything. Anyone who thinks so is a jerk. (Not you, the people at your school).

If a guy doesn't like you because you're "ugly", why would you like him, anyway. It's hard, but stop caring what people think so much. As for the girls saying, "Ooohhh, she's so ugly" or things like that, well, that's their opinion, so if they say it to, you, tell them that it may be their opinion, but it isn't yours. People are cruel. But I just got used to not caring. Don't let other people influence the way you see yourself. Even if you are stuck as what other people see as a geek, you'll find that being a geek is still pretty fun! Just wait until you make more money than them in the end.....Then they'll see.

Nobody can be ugly with a smile!



Nobody's perfect.

Answer 4

Listen sweet heart there is nothing wrong with you , you are fine you know how many women are having this stuff put into their lips to make them bigger , and I have an Italian nose and I really dont care what people have to say about it . Did you ever think that maybe they are jelous of you ? Im so serious the people that say things to others have issues of themselves . Ask anyone its the truth when someone is talking about another person they are not happy with their own bodys , Im telling you the truth and you stop worring you are a beautiful person , remember this toss your head up in the air and pass this stuff up .

Answer 5

Shine on and be yourself! If you speak up, people WILL start to notice you. I was under the "geeks and nerd" category and I hated it. But one day, I became more social by talking and joking with all the guys and girls in my classrooms. (advice: pick the friendly guys and girls to talk to) I found out that I am actually pretty funny, and everyone in my class knows my name and talks to me! It's just a small step for me, but it's a great accomplishment. Go from the classroom to the outside of it and people will see you for the gem you really are. and don't care about the "popular" people. What they say is THEIR opinion. It doesn't mean it's true. Good luck and remember to smile!
P.S: I'm sure that you have beautiful eyes! Have more confidence in yourself!

Answer 6

I can identify with you as I went through the same thing when I was in high school. Guess what I noticed when I got older, all the beautiful girls got overweight and homely, and I became very pretty with a beautiful figure! Ever read the ugly ducking who became the beautiful swan------well it happens more than you think. I also enrolled in John Robert Powers Modeling School and became a graduate. I became determined to look my best and it worked. Listen to me and believe me , you can look better . Believe in yourself and do what I did. Really, as I got older I actually became so pretty and now I'm older and yes I still look pretty. Don't give up , you can be as pretty as you want to be . Be determined girl!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

under no circumstances. females do no longer continuously choose a guy via his looks. although that could be a nicely time-venerated certainty that charm does come into play first until now something. generally youthful females may well be superficial, and in basic terms care approximately those form of issues - yet as you become older, and the girls human beings around you besides - you will see that for women character is each little thing. while i develop into in intense college i myself wasn't that distinctive from now - i might have an interest in the character fairly than basically the appearance. that is often a perk to look at the back of the actual, because of the fact like each little thing else looks will fade, and it form of sounds like your human beings could besides. placed your self in a greater effectual team of pals besides, and you will see which you're no longer the single getting used as a puppet anymore. Your the main excellent actor on your individual existence - start up appearing like one :) .

Answer 8

aww so sad. A beautiful person like you and you are going to let some people (who feel so low about themselves) trash you? Listen here, do some volunteering in your community, make a difference in someone elses life, visit nursing homes, help the elderly etc. You cannot go by looks, it is what's on the inside that counts.

Answer 9

Unfortunately, high school is full of losers . . .
Try getting by on looks at college !
Try getting by on looks when you have a real job !
If your parents can swing private school, you may be better off where there are fewer of the shallow pin head kids.
If not, just avoid the jerks, there are some other good humans there, find them . . .
AND focus on getting into the college of your choice because NONE of the pin heads can cut it there.

Answer 10

dont worry about what you look like... inner beauty is what its all about... look at what your good at and think of the ppl who love you instead of the people who dont like you... they dont know you and they dont see what kind of person you really are... you really cant do much about your apprearance... just wait... your still young and you will fill out and you can learn how to do your makeup and make your lips look smaller if its really that important to you.... and use some eyeshadow to bring out your eyes... they have and show true beauty... i believe that your eyes show your inner beauty... if your not happy with yourself then your not gunna be happy and your self esteem will stay low... try working out and what not... it will make you feel better cuz your doing something instead of sitting around thinking about how much youdont like how you look....