He's in his 40's and has been living at mom's for 8 months now while he pretends to be getting a divorce. He's a rotten father (he's either yelling at his kid or he's in bed pretending to be sick). He's probably stolen some of my mom's jewelry (she had the nerve to ask if I borrowed it.. I live 100 miles away!) My mom's house is falling to hell and he does nothing to help her. I'm finding myself disliking the jerk, and I'm trying not to get angry at my mom for being the total enabler. She won't visit me because she's "afraid of what might go on" while she's gone. He's taken the screen off the window so he can use his bedroom window instead of the front door, and has destroyed her back gate in order to slip out the back- then claimed the lawn mower guy did it. If I visit, he pretends to be sick and stays in his room.
I'm disgusted with them both and torn between feeling sad and angry. Do you blame me?
2007-01-30 11:13:09 · 6 answers · asked by Sabine É 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Also... so much crap has been going on for so long, my mom almost thinks it's "normal"- you know what I mean? Is anyone else shocked and disgusted or am I over-reacting?
2007-01-30 11:18:34 · update #1
I feel your pain. The description you give of your mother/brother relationship could have been written by me! I don't blame you for how you feel, at all.
In my situation, I was the one who ended up getting squeezed out of the picture all together - and it's been 12 years since either has bothered to speak to me. My life is better, and I hope they are happy in their codependent misery. My brother is 49, never married - no kids (thanks to my mom talking his ex-girlfriends into having abortions), doesn't work, and somehow still thinks he's going to be the next Peter Frampton (no kidding).
Can't say that I have any advice, but you need to worry about yourself and your life - if you don't live it - nobody else will. I know that it is painful to see what's going on with your family, but if it's not resolvable, and you move on - you'll see that they will be disfunctional either with or without you - and better WITHOUT you, 'cause life is too short.
Life is a journey, choose a path and don't look back.
2007-01-30 11:26:53 · answer #1 · answered by quietude61 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your brother has lost his ideas. If he rejected the 40 year previous female which could have taught him no longer the girlfriends mom whilst in a courting, something is faulty. Yeah you're probable good, it won't final because of the fact one in each and every of them will become uninterested in the different, however the only suggestion that I even have for you is do no longer churn the milk the incorrect way, enable issues be and he will discover out the hard way the blunders he made ought to value him loads of harm and soreness distinctly if that previous female exhibits yet another hottie available.
2016-11-23 14:55:13 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your right, he is a total loser. My mother-in-law has one son like that, my husbands brother, or the boy genius, he's 47, never had a job, scam artist. All that you can do is keep your distance and devote your own life to what ever makes you happy.You could always do what I did and disown the whole bunch of them, life is to short for all that garbage. Live Love Laugh often
2007-01-30 11:29:15 · answer #3 · answered by Cheryl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not over-reacting, but this is none of your business. Unless your mom asks for help, stay out of it. Maybe she likes the drama.
2007-01-30 11:23:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not blame you. I guess there are some times in life when you just need to move on.
2007-01-30 11:18:12 · answer #5 · answered by cutie pie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i totally aggree with u my uncle is just like that and i cant stand it. and its sad cuz im 13 and im more successful than he is
2007-01-30 12:40:14 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Booger♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋