should age be an issue in love or life he doesn't look 40 and that makes him more attractive he looks like 36
2007-01-30 11:11:22 · 18 answers · asked by SHELLY 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It may not matter now, but there may be a time when it will matter.The most important issue is will it matter when you find he is a generation or two behind you in music or if he will remember things that only people in his generation will remember and remind each other about. You will be left not even knowing what he is talking about. He will be left not knowing what you are talking about on certain things. For instance, my husband and I both know how the world stood still in shock when President Kennedy was assasinated. We were both very young. But we remember our nation mourning him.We both know what it felt like to be of that generation. We remember the commercials on TV and the music we loved. You will have to have other things in common that compensates for your lack of generational experiences. Your boyfriend will grow older faster than you and you may mind it when you look over and someday see his teeth soaking on your nightstand. If you have a lot in common on a mental level and you are a mature 25 year old, it may not matter to you or anyone else. However, if you are looking at long term there are issues to consider here. I am not saying it should never be done, I am saying that you should make an honest determination that down the road you will not care what he looks like in 5 or 10 years when his looks begin to fade and you will still be young and lovely.Remember, some men get pot bellies and bald and they get wrinkled.(Women age too).This is a very individual thing. Sometimes a person's looks do not fall apart until they get to 45 or 50. If you can say you do not care and want to be with this person anyway, then whatever anyone else has to say should not matter. But if the thought of his growing old faster than you would not be appealing to you, then you have to do what is fair to him and you and just tell the truth. This is up to you. You are the only one who can decide what
you want to live with . Best wishes!
2007-01-30 11:31:34 · answer #1 · answered by Marie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
iam 29 and dated a 43 year old. Older men are more possessive and have experienced more life. They normally have children around your age. If you two are secure enough even with the age difference than cool. But at that age you can deal with health issues like diabetes or even high cholestrol. Do you mind tending to a man that might die in the next 20 years. If so, have a blast. But botttom line is you have to deal with so.. but the flip side is stabilty(hopefully). He should be well established, home, career, etc... and if he is not, than run like hell cause he'll leach off your credit and success.
2007-01-30 11:25:58 · answer #2 · answered by missy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually the generally rule is he shouldn't be dating anyone LESS than 1/2 his age + seven years.
1/2 of 40 is twenty
add seven
and that yields 27.
He is officially robbing the cradle and there is absolutely nothing wrong with dating a sugar daddy.
Go on with your bad self, girl!
Don't be skurred.
2007-01-30 11:19:33 · answer #3 · answered by DaMan 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont see what's wrong with the age. Age is not biggest issue for me. Only communication and passion can stay you and him together. I am 19 yrs old and I previously dated 45 yr old and I still love him! True love never tear us apart. you should do same thing.
2007-01-30 11:17:30 · answer #4 · answered by starsgirl021687 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it matters to you then you may have an underlying issue with the age factor. If you dont have a problem with it at all and you are both in love then it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks! if they have an issue with it that is their problem certainly not yours.
Good luck to you both.
2007-01-30 11:17:57 · answer #5 · answered by Love Dragon 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Noo...my parents are 39 and 53 but that doesn't stop them...my grandpa (68) married a 39 year old...true loves comes in all different ages, shapes, sizes, colors, etc.
2007-01-30 11:16:27 · answer #6 · answered by a person 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends on what you are both looking for in life. Sure, there are going to be people who say things demeaning and cruel as well as how wrong the both of you are. Yet in the end, it's all about how the two of you feel and what you're both going to do about it all!!
2007-01-30 11:17:03 · answer #7 · answered by mangamaniaciam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay first of all, if you guys love each other and like spending time together, that is fine. but i do not think that you can really blame people for being concerned about the age difference. however, be mature about it. of course you should feel awkward but as long as you have one another, then it is okay, right?
2007-01-30 11:19:02 · answer #8 · answered by CHI U 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be prepared to hear the " Robbed the Cradle" jokes and comments from others. Also if it gets serious, your children will have a significantly older father...but hey hollywood does it all the time right? :)
2007-01-30 11:17:39 · answer #9 · answered by Ak K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes that should matter. He's 15 years older than you. Thats a really big diference. Age does matter.
2007-01-30 11:17:57 · answer #10 · answered by edward cullen grl <3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋