i moved all the way to another state just to be with the guy i believe i am madly in love with.But everytime we get into an argument he always says that i owe him something, what do i do. Im only 17 years old and cant take this. I also livewith him and dont get along with his dad because we butt heads, i need lots of help. If i move back i have no where to go, but if i stay i feel were not gonna last much longer. Its been almost 5 months and have had to go through things that people who have been together for 5 years havnt even gone through. What do i do??
2007-01-30 10:20:53 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1. Go back or stay in school.
2. Find out why he says you owe him. A relationship is a two way street.
3. Make sure you're carrying your weight around the house.
4. If he's abusive, leave him...life is too short for verbal abuse
2007-01-30 10:26:20 · answer #1 · answered by A J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly, are you in school? if not, why not? in life always sort yourself out first.. he might dump you in two months time.. your education comes first, always...
secondly, during arguments, what does he say you owe him? chances are you don't owe him anything.. its just emotional blackmail... and really not good...
if you don't get along with his dad, thats probably not a good living arrangement, you need to talk to both of them about that situation and come to a compromise...
why do you have nowhere to go if you move back? talk to your parents and tell them how you feel.. they're your parents, they'll love you regardless of the decisions you made and will always take you back with open arms, never worry about the love of a parent, its the strongest you'll ever have...
lastly... you're way to young to be making decisions like this, or living this life.. you're going to think i'm totally patronising you by writing this, but you're still just a kid... and you've an entire life ahead of you... slow things down a little, take a little time, its not a rush, you should live to around 80yrs old, times on your side.. use it wisely... good luck...
2007-01-30 10:54:40 · answer #2 · answered by muppet 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you have ANYONE you can stay with back home? Even if it means putting aside your pride and asking for help from someone you'd rather not ask? Because if it's as bad as you make it out to be, you might not have anywhere to go regardless. If you have a parent you can call for help, I'd call them. If not, you'll just have to find a way to get a job, save money and move out. Maybe find a roommate and share an apartment. I'm sorry you're in this situation.
2007-01-30 10:29:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess you thought it was the grown up thing to do to leave your parents at such a young age to be with the boy you loved. Well, love isn't a thing that guys deal with so easily...as you're finding out. I just hope you aren't pregnant or have any kids with this loser.
You need to go back home, apologize to your parents and straighten up your life, while you still have a chance (I hope). But, being the know-it-all teenager that you are, I'm sure you won't do that.
2007-01-30 10:25:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
wow... thats a big sacfice... im the same age as you... i cna understand what your going through,we women make alot of sacfices choices where men just dont seem to appreciate it etc... well, i think you guys should sit down and have a talk with him how he feels,if eh dont respect it..i would move on..with ur life..in a realtionship your supos eto ahve a godo balancing of equal communication. and the biggest part is trusting eachother if noone of that thier is no realtionship..itd just be a disaster..
good luck!
2007-01-30 10:27:59 · answer #5 · answered by Andrea 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
it sounds like u shood give him some space see if u can stay with 1 of your friends 2 give him that space
2007-01-30 10:40:46 · answer #6 · answered by tm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are established at work, see about getting an apartment, away from the *******.
2007-01-30 10:26:04 · answer #7 · answered by khanofali 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel you are capable of having a long term relationship with him go ahead don't let anyone stop you
2015-07-02 15:15:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
save up some money so that you can move out and get your own place to live...
2007-01-30 10:29:10 · answer #9 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell us this. Talk to him about this!
2007-01-30 10:25:15 · answer #10 · answered by Lying from you 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋