My b/f's friend molested me over the weekend. His friend was drunk, but I am kinda mad that my b/f only stopped being friends with the guy when I am around. Should I stay with my b/f who I love??
2007-01-30 10:09:47 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He stopped talking to his friend he said, but my other guy friend said that they are still talking, just not when I am around.
2007-01-30 10:15:21 · update #1
Nikki, you need to drop this loser boyfriend and press charges against his friend.
2007-01-30 10:13:07 · answer #1 · answered by Da Tiebreaker 2 · 7⤊ 0⤋
This sounds very suspicious to me. Your boyfriend does not sound like any other man that I know, that would be so jealous that he would want to fight this other guy. Maybe you should look at whether your boyfriend sees your relationship as you do. I dont know that he really loves you if he would allow his friend to touch you sexually. Another thing, how could you allow it? What were you doing while he was molesting you? Molesting is a harsh word and if this was going on maybe you should have contacted the police. But, your boyfriend is wrong for that. You dont deserve that!
2007-01-30 10:17:23 · answer #2 · answered by msnothinbutalady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if he really loved you, he would've taken you by the hand, and walked your a s s into the cop shop to press charges. NO MAN would stand by and watch his girl get hurt emotionally or physically by ANYONE. Honey, you may have feelings for this loser, but he is NO good. The kinda guy that would knock you up then leave you, the kinda guy who would cheat on you, the kinda guy who would bring home std's. Get rid of him ASAP. Most importantly, go to the police and press charges on his friend before he molests ( or does something even worse) to another girl. You have to stand up and be heard honey, if not for yourself, for the rest of us girls who are sick of being treated like meat.
much <3 and good luck.
2007-01-30 10:19:59 · answer #3 · answered by X-tina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was molested; boyfriend's friend or not, I would have reported it right away to the police. Not doing anything, you are almost saying it was alright and if it ever would happen again, they'll ask you why you didn't report it the first time. If it were me, I would lose alot of respect for my boyfriend, if he continued being "friends" with this guy.
2007-01-30 10:16:13 · answer #4 · answered by Nancy D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how old you are, or your boyfriend or his friend are either but especially if you are a minor you have got to report it to the police that way they'll hopefully be able to put a stop to him somehow. Now about your boyfriend still being cool w/ this loser....that is so NOT ok and you need to kick his loser butt to the curve. How could he be ok w/ any guy that lays a finger on you?! The fact that this guy happened to be a friend shouldn't matter at all!!!! You deserve better than that, PLEASE DO YOURSELF A FAVOR AND LOSE HIM A.S.A.P!!!
Good luck
2007-01-30 10:21:19 · answer #5 · answered by gaby c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being drunk is no excuse, reason, or justification! It just ain't right.
Sorry, but I don't think you'll like this answer - I am pretty much black & white, no grey areas here concerning certain things.
If this is a loving situation on a 2 way street, then I'd say there is a big problem here. If someone who was supposed to be a friend of mine molested my honey, I'd kick his @ss and that would be the end of him. SO...............
Either you don't mean as much to your B/F as you think or would like to.....or
Your B/F has no balls!!!!!!!
His friend is obviously an oportunistic SOB.............
2007-01-30 10:19:58 · answer #6 · answered by Patrick M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wake up girl.........You were MOLESTED.......first of all I would be pressing charges against this troll
and
Hell Yes, drop that looser, especially since he is aware that the guy Molested/Raped you and he is still his friend.....I don't know what kind of guy you are dating but my boyfriend would have beat the crap out of him-later for the friendship........
You need to report his desperate a-s right now........
You sound more upset that your boyfriend is still his friend and not so much upset that he Molested-you.........this is a problem
DO NOT LET HIM GET AWAY WITH THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
GET MAD.........he took advantage of you
2007-01-30 10:20:45 · answer #7 · answered by Pegi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
press charges against the 'friend'.
If your bf cannot handle this like a real man, you'll find out soon enough. Don't press him into deciding sides.
Pressing for action against the 'friend' has nothing to do with your boyfriend. He can make up his mind on his own.
Don't let your relationship keep you hostage in a case of molestation.
2007-01-30 10:15:20 · answer #8 · answered by Job van de Sande 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know this is hard trust me i know. If your b/f loved you he would stop being frinds with this guy then honn im sorry to say he dont love you as much as you love him. I know you dont want to hear this but its true. I was molested by my dads best friend and by my very first b/f and when i moved on and got with my next b/f is was my ex's best friend and when i told him what happen he told me he would stop being friends with this guy and when i saw my b/f the next day they were hanging out, so i left him. It took me so long to finaly trust someone and that someone is now my husband. I was scared to tell him but when i did i thought he was gonna leave me but he didnt. So what im trying to say is oyu need to fallow your heart, it will never lie to you as long as you listen to it. But honn if this guy loves you he will stop being friends with this guy. I know its hard but trust your heart. If you have any more questions you can email me at jjndina@hotmail.com.
2007-01-30 10:28:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I'm probably agreeing with everyone here. You have to think about this, what if the situation was reversed. What if one of your friends did something really awful to your boyfriend? Would you choose your friend or boyfriend?
Now, think about this, in this situation, your boyfriend chose his friend over you. While you love your boyfriend, I wonder if he truly loves you. Because if he did, he would not maintain any friendship with this guy that violated you.
2007-01-30 10:16:20 · answer #10 · answered by tannedknight45 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok Niki, someone molesting you? You can't stay with him if one of his friends did that to you. And he shouldn't have been drunk in the first place.
2007-01-30 10:15:09 · answer #11 · answered by fredflinstone312 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋