She dumped me cause i was pushy and needy. She is now constantly contacting me but she said she wants to be friends right now and see what happens before she gives me a second chance. My question is this....Is it okay to move on with your life, meaning.....Don't answer her calls all the time, don't call her or make plans...Don't call her back right away but talk to her whenever you are not busy or say hi every once in a while. Is it better to remain a challenge like this? Or should I take all her calls and talk to her when she calls me. I felt bad that I didn't call her last night cause she called me but left no message but I don't want to be a good friend. I just want to be the man that could love her if she wanted me too. Not the one who begs her or wants her badly...How do I act if I want to be there for her but not be in the "total friend zone"?
2007-01-30 09:52:22 · 9 answers · asked by D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this is what you do.. give her some space.. don't call her, let her call you. when she does you know ask her how she's doing and make lil remarks that you miss her and see what her response is gonna be. let her know straight up that your not into being her friend that you can only see her as your woman. just take things slow and like she said.. see where things go. you did say you were needy.. all she probably wanted was a lil bit of space from you and the only way she knew she could get that is if she broke up with you. flip the script.. make her want you. good luck.
2007-01-30 10:03:48 · answer #1 · answered by Blake 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough position to be in. Playing hard to get won't work, though. Sending her a dozen roses once a week will give her a message. This is expensive, but you have to look at a relationship as an investment for a better future together.
Sometimes people are truly ambivalent about the way they feel. This is confusing to all concerned, but sometimes people just can't help it.
Sometimes it takes a girl years to warm up to a guy in the way that you want. You should think about this and decide how much time you want to invest in her. Other females may be more readily available.
I was very deeply in love with a woman for many years, but she was simply unavailable. Life is like that - you can't always get what you want.
2007-01-30 18:02:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She dumped you..So, let her go, she didnt want you before, its the girls version of having her cake and eating it too. however, if you are that needy to have her back yea just call her back. And yes it is okay to move on with your life, There are many other girls out there...
2007-01-30 18:02:18 · answer #3 · answered by lippi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man I think you should try new with someone else, because the second time around usually imitates the first and ends worse.
2007-01-30 17:59:38 · answer #4 · answered by Celeste P 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She seems to be the needy one now, so talk to her tell her you have changed and want her back as b/f and g/f.
2007-01-30 18:02:11 · answer #5 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude...if you want to get back together with her, then why WOULD you ignore her calls and cancel plans? she obviously WANTS to give you a second chance, but she needs you to do your part.
2007-01-30 18:01:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really like her then give her another chance but if she was a b***h the 1st time then my guess is that she will be a b***h the 2nd time around.
2007-01-30 18:01:22 · answer #7 · answered by brandi c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
c just ask urself wat u want...in this case follow ur heart n brain n then make a decision...also consider that is she tryin 2 find sme1 else by using u 2 make the other guy jealous...n ask urself if u r ready 2 fulfill wat she wans or after smetime u 2 will b apart again...n consider wat she wants as well...go all the best
2007-01-30 18:01:57 · answer #8 · answered by sexy_luv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her sit on it for a while. don't wait on her beck and call.
2007-01-30 17:57:34 · answer #9 · answered by spankypants 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋