How to tell ur parents u r converting?

Question

heyy. im catholic and i recently decided to convert to islam. im sumwat hesitant though because i dont know how my parents will react considering they are really religous. how should i break it to them?

Answer 1

Wow, I know a lady who converted to Islam too. She said she did it because she found Christianity to be too confusing. Congrats on your choice! :)


Tell them this:

Islam and Christianity are both monotheistic religions. They both worship the same god. While you might have seen radical Muslims on the TV alot, the majority of the Muslim population is very, very peaceful. Besides, Christianity has killed and prosecuted more people than any other religion known in the history of the world. You can't sink much lower than that :) Please, Mum and Dad, let do what my heart desires. I know God would let me.

Answer 2

You don't indicate how old you are. If you are an established adult (that is, you're not living at home and/or taking money from your parents), then this is your decision, but I think you know that they are very likely to be deeply upset. If you are still under 18, you should wait until you are older. This is too serious a decision to make at a time when your ideas are evolving and changing. If you go ahead, be prepared for some very real consequences.

But whatever your age, as your parents will probably see it, you are not only rejecting them, your family in general, their faith, and the way they have raised you, but you are placing yourself in danger in the life to come. Actually, a Moslem family would be likely to react the same way if you were to convert to Christianity -- apostasy is considered a particularly terrible sin in Islam. I suggest that you break the news gradually by talking to them about Islam, telling them you're taking classes, etc. and giving them time to get used to the idea. Then when you tell them you've decided to convert, they won't feel like they've been blind-sided. Besides, if your faith is strong enough to convert, then you should be able to discuss this in advance with your parents, explaining what it is about your new religion that attracts you.

Answer 3

Be first, then convert. What I mean is, pray the five times a day, don't charge people for loans (which you're probably too young for anyway) take care of the poor and helpless, keep the holy days holy, etc. If you make a very good Muslim, maybe it won't hurt your feelings so much, because making a good Muslim and making a good Christian have a lot in common.

So, are you going to be Shi'a, or Sunni? Or maybe you've found a drooze? If you are going to "convert", then I hope you know what you're doing before you cause your parents any torment. I'm pretty sure Allah frowns on frivolous conversions as much as God does.

Answer 4

I went through a similar experience when I converted from Methodist to Mormon. I thought they would be happy for me, but they weren't. Be prepared for that.
I wanted to tell them what led up to my conversion, and give them my testimony, (testimonies are big in the Mormon church) so I wrote them a letter. I felt that if I wrote it they could refer back to it, whereas if I just told them or phoned them, they might remember parts of it, but not all of it. I also made a copy of my letter for myself so I could have a record of what I was feeling at the time.
Now that I look back on it, I probably wouldn't do anything different, except maybe tell them face to face so I could answer any questions they might have, then give them a copy of my letter. At the time I converted I was in college 8 hours away from them, so face to face wasn't really an option.
Neither of my parents were/are REALLY religious, but they do both believe in God and Christ.

It's a hard thing to do, because you're so happy about your decision, and your concerned that they may not be. The only advice I can offer is to be ready for the backlash, and after you tell them have someone to go to that understands that you can talk to about it. Even if it's a positive experience, it will be nice to share that experience with someone.

Good luck.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

If you're still living with your parents, you might want to keep it to yourself until you have a place of your own. I've known a lot of people who converted and were thrown out of the house by religious parents. Oh - and some parents have religious interventions where they call in the entire family, the local prayer circle, church elders, and the priest/pastor/reverend! That's a scary possibility - especially if you're living at home.

But definitely expect the worst when you do tell them. They are going to freak out.

Answer 7

I assume you're asking because you are under 18. Will Islam accept you as a convert without your parents' permission?
I believe respect for parents is important in Islam. I think you need more information.

Answer 8

Have an open and honest conversation and be prepared for them to be upset. Keep in mind that the most important thing is that you and your parents respect each other and each other's beliefs... neither of you should allow your beliefs to drive a wedge between you.

If they freak out, show them the response of "Tuco" (above): this radical example of drooling idiocy may scare them away from being bigoted, idiot types of Christians when dealing with your conversion.

Answer 9

The safest way is out the car window as you are moving away.

The other idea is to sit them down and explain it to them. I can't say how they might react, it ranges from "Get out of my house" to "Good for you I'm glad you found something that makes you happy". I wish you the best in telling them if you decide to.

Answer 10

well maybe u can go to a mosque and ask one of the ladies or imams to what u can do. maybe they will shelter u or something. just tell ur parents mom da i converted. and u no wat sis uv got nothing to be afraid of cuz all ur sins of the past has been erased and u r like a new born baby. so if they try to kill u or something. u will go to heaven insha allah. but i think asking the mosque pple first would be a good idea

Answer 11

Since you know that they aren't going to appreciate it, you should expect the worst, while hoping for the best. They may surprise you, or it may go as badly as you suspect. But it would be better for you to tell them rather than have them find out.