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I was wondering if when I get older I am going to be a lonely old women that never gets married. I am wondering that because I have never had a boyfriend and I am 14 and I get very nervous around boys that I like. If I never get a boyfriend all through High School will I be considered weird? I don't think I will get a boyfriend in High School because I live in a small town and the boys that are in my class now will be in my class all through HighSchool and none of them like me.

Answer 1

you are too young to worry about that....who knows maybe you will be married lots of times..no need to worry

Answer 2

I say: You're way too young to be worried about that; there's plenty of time.

Even as I say that, many other older answerers are thinking the same thing. You, however, may tend to ignore this answer because it doesn't correspond with your feelings. (But then, why ask the question?) Don't discount this; please consider that you might be worrying over nothing.

There is not a thing in the world wrong with not having your first real boyfriend until age 16, or 18, or 21, or 35 for that matter. I've known many very happy people that had a later start, but they waited and found the right person. (That's not so say that they refused to date until they found perfection; there's no such thing. There can still be dating, and failed relationships, and restarts. But it doesn't have to start right away.)

Now, will you be considered weird? The honest answer is yes, many of your contemporaries in high school may think of it as weird. Consider: They are your age (even the seniors aren't THAT different from your age). So what makes them so specially smart about it? I guarantee, boyfriends or not, they know as much as you do about love and relationships . . . or less! Don't let a bunch of novices dictate what kind of relationships you should have and what age you should have them.

And in the world of older people, those no longer in high school, I doubt you'll find anyone at all who thinks your weird for not having a boyfriend.

As far as no boys liking you now, remember that people change all the time, and it's never more true in life than it is during the teen years. You'll change, and so will they. Anything can happen in four years.

Just keep changing for the better. Remember, the goal is to one day find a good guy; the goal is not to find a good guy NOW.

Answer 3

Hey girl you don't sound weird to me at all!! I didn't have a boyfriend until toward the end of the year when I was a senior in high school!! My first kiss was when I was a freshman. Being nervous around people you like is just a fact of LIFE. We all get nervous - we don't want to say or do the wrong thing to make the crush think we're dorks - hell I still do that now and I'm 32!! You just learn how to handle your feelings and nervousness as you get older with experience. You're young - you have tons of time to sharpen your teeth on meeting guys and flirting, dating, hanging out, telephoning, emailing....That's the best part - the trial and error.

I think that you may be wrong about none of the boys liking you. Boys are just really good (sometimes not) at hiding their crushes. At that age, they are all weirded out by their feelings - unlike we women who are mature and strong!! Again, when I was in high school, I never had a date on the weekends. I kid you not. When graduation came around, I found out from a ton of guys that they liked me for a long time but were either too shy or intimidated by me (I am also a tall girl). I'm guessing that the same goes for you - you are intimidating the boys with something good you've got!! And if things don't happen soon enough for you with the boys in your school, is there another school around you that you can meet some guys? Are there activities around your town where you can meet guys? You can find a way to meet someone special, just get out there!!

Answer 4

I would just concentrate on school right now. Get good grades and do well in school. It may not be until college until a boy notices you, so what? You are young, you have all the time in the world. People are getting married later in there life now a days, usually after their career is established. My sister didn't didn't date at all in high school in the small town we grew up in. She didn't meet her Prince Charming till she went to college. She has been happily married for decades now, and has a lovely family. Girls your age are usually more mature than the boys in your grade anyway. Everything will work out, there's no reason to worry. Just concentrate on school and those grades and good things will follow a good education.

Answer 5

Don't worry, it will come together in time. You may end up with one of the boys that you already know, people's feeling change all the time or it may be after high school that you find someone that you want to marry..........for now just try to get involved with a school club or some activities that are for groups of boys and girls. Get to know and hang out with some of the boys as just friends and it will help you relax a little when you meet someone you want to date. Good luck and don't worry you have plenty of time!!

Answer 6

Oh dear, you are still young to lose hope like this.
Let’s say that through this year, a kid from another town moved to your town. And he is a kind and nice kid. May be!!
If not, let’s say that in 1-2 years, you will graduate then you will go to college. You will be mature to understand boys much more. Then you will have new friends that they are fun and want to be with you. This delay could be for a reason. I know that my nephew is 16 and still single. However, he is busy with sport and sometime music. I told him the same thing. He lives in a small town like you. Now he cannot wait for college.
Things will be fine dear. Just don’t you ever lose faith in your self.

Take care

Answer 7

High school goes so quickly and you will meet MANY people after you graduate. Do not worry about it now. I also had a hard time getting boyfriends in highschool and was worried just like you are, but trust me, it will get better. Just try your best to be patient. Things will turn around for the best before you know it.

Answer 8

Here is the deal young lady. I did not let my daughter date until she was 16 years old. She just turned 16 in November and she has yet to set a date with any guy. You do not have to date, just for the thrill of dating. Your too young and boys want things that you should hold special. Yes, my daughter is a complete hottie too. Voted Pretties eyes in our city by Hawaiian Tropics. She is just more interested now in school and scholarships, But I do understand she wanted to date boys at your age to. You don't need to and they will not be you husband or something. Thy will hurt you and then tell everyone bad things about you (When thy are done with you) SO you see it really is not worth it.
Hope you find happiness elsewhere.
Tracylyn S

Answer 9

I've known a lot of people who never had a boyfriend or girl friend until they are out of high school. I know that doesn't mean a lot to you now and you would prefer to have a boy friend but don't worry, it will happen. All of us feel unlovable at some time. Hang in there!

Answer 10

there is no rule saying you only have to date boys from you own class or your own school. i never dated people from my own class, usually the year ahead of me, or other schools or maybe someone i met at wal-mart. your only 14 so things are gonna change a lot over the years. your feelings for others are gonna change, others feelings for you are gonna change. 14 is a little young to get all freaked out about being old and lonely. your gonna get a boyfriend, you just gotta stop freakin out about it, cause trying to hard is not a very attractive quality. and people can tell if your trying to hard, and it comes off as desperate. just relax and it WILL happen!!!!!!!!

Answer 11

Growing up in a small town I know how you feel. You have alot to experience in life and 14 is just a small slice of it. You will find as you get older you will get that chance to be the popular girl if you continue to make yourself a better person.