Why is it guys still get turned-on when they know you aren't in the mood anyway??
Why do guys keep trying when they know you arent up to se.x??
Should I feel bad for him when I don't want to and he does??
2007-01-30 09:21:59 · 13 answers · asked by Nicoletta 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because, generally, girls need to have some kind of connection in order to feel sexually attracted to you. If they know the other person isn't interested (in them, in sex), then it's hard for them to be interested either.
Men, on the other hand, generally, don't need that connection. Sex is more of a primal, reproductive, survival of the species, sexual outlet thing. If the girl isn't showing they're interested, the male is STILL interested!
It's just the way we're both programmed and it was meant to be that way.
He needs to learn that and he'll be the better for learning it - so diplomatically teach him... let him know that if you're not interested, it's nothing personal, it's just that you're not in the "mood" and it's a female thing that he really needs to accept.
2007-01-30 09:30:16 · answer #1 · answered by Adam F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope you should feel loved and appreciated. I do give it up at times that I do not feel up to it, but I also make it a challenge to my spouse to get me to where he is. He usually does all the work until I am ready to participate, which by the way don't take long it your man know what he is doing. So, if you are not in the mood, then tell him so. If you choose to do it anyway, then make it a game and see what happens. It has made a big difference in our love life and he has been more able to leave me be when I really have an issue with it. (and he does it with love and understanding)
Have fun, but don't do anything you are not wanting to do.
Tracylyn S
2007-01-30 17:28:34 · answer #2 · answered by Tracylyn S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for woman sex is more emotional they have to feel like they what sex because they love you men are more phyiscal we want sex because we get a hard on. and when we are with someone we some times think that when we want sex we should get it. have you ever want sex with a man that was not in the mood?sounds rare but it does happen
2007-01-30 17:27:35 · answer #3 · answered by dekers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is soooo human nature for a guy...the next time that comes up and your not in the mood..tell him you'll do IT if he does all the work..
2007-01-30 17:27:39 · answer #4 · answered by Bad Mood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell No! Im a guy and i understand the situation.... if he really likes you.. then he must respect your descision..... if all he want his to f**k den i say he doesnt love you for who you are but only for your body..... so u say no to him... when u dont feel like it! You need some saying in this relationship too! And Dont feel bad for him!
2007-01-30 17:32:09 · answer #5 · answered by Yadhu T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cuz that's just the way guys are. they get more excited when you make it challenging for him to convince you to have sex. no, you shouldn't feel bad for him. if he keeps wanting to have sex then i think you should ask him if that's all he wants from the relationship. sorry if this answer offends you.
2007-01-30 17:28:26 · answer #6 · answered by BlackParadeGirl37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you have to keep it in perspective... How would you feel if he told you HE wasn't in the mood when YOU wanted it?
2007-01-30 17:28:23 · answer #7 · answered by Sugar_Mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad; he'll get over it - and hopefully learn to be a bit more sensitive to your needs. Us guys learn slow, sometimes...
2007-01-30 17:26:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.thanx for the 2 points
2007-01-30 17:25:01 · answer #9 · answered by Jacob R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men always want sex there's nothing you can do or feel bad about
2007-01-30 17:25:39 · answer #10 · answered by Annie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋