How come Catholics make it so hard to get Married?

Question

I mean,come on, 9 months-to a year to have a wedding,thats nut.What do you think?

Answer 1

True Christian Marriage is a Sacrament, lasts a lifetime and should not be entered into lightly or on a whim.

However once married, the couple is strengthened in many wonderful ways.

The spouses of a valid marriage:
• Create a bond, which by its very nature is perpetual and exclusive.
• Are strengthened and consecrated for the duties and the dignity of their state.
• Are sealed by God himself in their consent to mutually give and receive one another.
• Form a covenant that is integrated into God's covenant with man: "Authentic married love is caught up into divine love."
• Have their own special grace that:
• Perfects the couple's love.
• Strengthens their unity.
• Helps one another to attain holiness in their married life.
• Helps in welcoming and educating their children.

With love in Christ.

Answer 2

It's a matter of logistics.

First, many churches can only handle 2 weddings per Saturday (which is the most popular day to get married) and depending on the popularity of the church, those dates fill up fast.

Second, there is a process of preparing for the SACRAMENT of Marriage that cannot be simply done on the fly. It usually involves at least a few months to get things scheduled.

Third, 9 months to a year? Wow, come out here to California - most of our Catholic churches only ask 6 months advance notice and if you are willing to get married on, say a Wednesday evening, you might be able to schedule it in less time.

Last, it's rules made by each diocese and parish, not the Catholics themselves.

Answer 3

From one who has done it, I assure you it is no big deal. Basically you make arrangements with the church. All you have to do is call, my fiance did this right after we got engaged. Then you have to set up a meeting with the priest. This meeting took about an hour, he asked some odd questions but it was not a huge interrogation either. I remember he asked if my fiance and I were related to each other. It was not a hard question to answer but I did not see that one coming. The priest did not ask if we have had sex or if we were living together. He did give us a brief sermon on the church's views on birth control.

Normally couples must go to classes, which are commonly known as pre-Cana. Our priest did not makes us go to class, I still do not know why. He said that our pre-Cana was to attend Mass every Sunday.

Catholics consider marriage a sacrament therefore you must not enter into it lightly. Unlike in Vegas, you cannot show up drunk at 3:00 am and expect a priest to marry you.

Answer 4

A wedding is a day, a marriage is a life time.

Matrimony is a vocation that is taken as seriously as any religious vocation. Maybe more so, since children could be involved.

Catholics enjoy a slightly lower divorce rate, because a lot of preparation is done.

I urge you to take an Engagement Encounter weekend. You won't regret it.
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Answer 5

Would it be "nuts" if the only way out of the relationship is for the person you married (or you) to die?

The "'Til Death Do Us Part" is a real promise. Not to the spouse, but to God.

Divorce is not an option.

Because there isn't an easy escape route, it needs to be carefully thought out and entered into carefully.

With +50% of the marriages ending in divorce, the Church is trying to get things back to the way God intended it to be.

Answer 6

Because we consider it a Sacrament....the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony...where two become one flesh. God joins you together. It is "'til death do us part" - and we mean it. That is why there is no such thing as "divorce" - it is for life.

Without that kind of proper preparation and the understanding that a proper Sacramental Intention is necessary for both parties, the Sacrament is null and void.

I wish it was longer than a year, personally.

Nobody I have ever married had gotten a divorce.

Answer 7

mostly it's studying about it. and no, it's not nuts. marriage is a blood covenant, which means-it's forever. Jesus said in Matthew and mark that just because you divorce on earth, doesn't mean you're divorce in heaven. and after divorce, if you marry again, it is adultery AND the person you marry also commits adultery. marriage is a calling and must be taking seriously. and look at the divorce rates now.

Answer 8

Father K's answer references Marriage is a Sacrement. Here is a small glimse into what that Sacrement entails:

"1642 Christ is the source of this grace. "Just as of old God encountered his people with a covenant of love and fidelity, so our Savior, the spouse of the Church, now encounters Christian spouses through the sacrament of Matrimony." Christ dwells with them, gives them the strength to take up their crosses and so follow him, to rise again after they have fallen, to forgive one another, to bear one another's burdens, to "be subject to one another out of reverence for Christ," and to love one another with supernatural, tender, and fruitful love. In the joys of their love and family life he gives them here on earth a foretaste of the wedding feast of the Lamb:

How can I ever express the happiness of a marriage joined by the Church, strengthened by an offering, sealed by a blessing, announced by angels, and ratified by the Father? . . . How wonderful the bond between two believers, now one in hope, one in desire, one in discipline, one in the same service! They are both children of one Father and servants of the same Master, undivided in spirit and flesh, truly two in one flesh. Where the flesh is one, one also is the spirit. "

Answer 9

The government should make it just as hard to get married. Some people make some stupid decisions.

Answer 10

to make you think of the commitment you are about to have, its not a game