Me and my girlfriend have been going out for 6 months now. We love each other we make each other very happy.
The problem is that I am her first for sex, and now that's all she wants to do. I know as a guy I shouldn't complain but I just don't want a relationship based on that, because I know from experience what kind of problems it causes
2007-01-30 09:12:07 · 24 answers · asked by Kevin 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Then dont have sex until ur ready
2007-01-30 09:15:46 · answer #1 · answered by Vin R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you tried communicating that to her? Suggest that you do something else for the evening like playing a game or watching a movie. Or just have good conversation. Try looking into a hobby you both might enjoy. The key is to find other things to do. And you're right, if the only thing you do or have in common is sex, then their will be problems. At any rate, you need to tell her how you feel in a non-threating way. Tell her that you really enjoy sex with her, you think it's great, but you want to get to know other parts of her as well. Good luck!
2007-01-30 17:19:51 · answer #2 · answered by spyhopper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys make each other very happy then I doubt that the relationship is only based on sex. She probably likes to "do it" often to make you happy. Most women think that's all men want anyways, but you're not like that. So don't stress too much about it. You two will be just fine.
2007-01-30 17:20:47 · answer #3 · answered by Got Curves? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for someone who is just starting to have sex, to be focused on it- it's new, exciting, and fun. If you feel that it's dominating your relationship, do things that force you to make time for each other in a non-physical way as well. Plan outings and develop your relationship, while at the same time satisfying her physical needs. Just try to maintain a healthy balance, and take advantage of it while it's still 'hot'....
2007-01-30 17:20:19 · answer #4 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work on building the relationship on something other than sex. Communication is crucial. Sit down with her and discuss the issues. You may find that she wants more out of the relationship that just sex as well.
2007-01-30 17:18:27 · answer #5 · answered by fly guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude i totally agree....like i just got out of a realationship of 1 year and i asked her for sex first then every time we hung out we had sex......im not complaining but it turned into just a physical relationship which is not what i wanted....if i wanted a physical relationship i could go down to the club and pick up a girl.....from my experiences just talk with her and just be like i wanna have sex with you and i like having sex iwht you but i wanna do other things when we are together as well.
2007-01-30 17:17:21 · answer #6 · answered by hockey_starr_11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it should flatter you (i mean it must mean you are good; of course u her first but she actually enjoys it so it means she orgasms) besides the fact that you need to stop complaining. And dont worry everything is going to in its place just as long as you happy with each other.
2007-01-30 17:19:12 · answer #7 · answered by BK thang 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude just because you do it alot does not mean that's all the relationships about.
Your being waaay to sensative about this. Just have fun and enjoy your partner.
But remind her that we have a 15 minute cool down inbetween sessions.
Good lizzle.
2007-01-30 17:19:05 · answer #8 · answered by Myself 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that cuz girls are more emotional anyways and that would prolly make it in her eyes too not just about sex and enjoy. it's sort of the romantic aspect. one in liike 100 girls want a relationship based around sex
2007-01-30 17:18:35 · answer #9 · answered by Dodge 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel she only wants sex? She can get that anywhere but she is with you so that should mean something to you. Sit her down and express yourself and I'm sure you two will be okay.
2007-01-30 17:17:10 · answer #10 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, honey - you started it, now ya gotta finish it. It's up to you to take control..over that part of the relationship. She's found something she likes, she enjoys it and wants to experiment.
2007-01-30 17:19:02 · answer #11 · answered by Vanity 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋